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About Those “Red Pill Truths:” An Essay

If there’s one thing that’s getting passed around a lot over the internet, it would be the concept of “red-pill truths.” It’s something that increasingly comes to my attention, and as well, there are a lot of people now standing up against the red-pill and calling on men to be honorable and decent, actually having love for women, instead of being narcissistic and abusive. Surely at some point in the future men will start standing up, taking charge again, and saying No more. You won’t do this to our daughters, sisters, and mothers from here on out. Most notable among those starting to speak out against the red-pill are:

InsanityBytes (1), The Night Wind (2), and a brand new site (Christian-oriented) called Red-Pill Fallacies (3).

When you look at it on the surface, these so-called “Red-Pill Truths” have just enough truth in them and sting just enough on the surface as to make them believable (4). It hits you hard at first and you begin to think, well, maybe…But, as with most propaganda, the reality, when you dig a bit deeper, is actually what can be referred to as “half-truths,” or insidious lies and distortions of reality mixed in with just enough truth that all but the most educated and informed become susceptible to it.

Red-pill men and the manosphere in general just love to talk trash about women (remember my post about men running their mouths (5)? Keep that in mind, I’ll come back to it). One of the most notable things they do is exaggerate the importance of youth when talking about a woman’s value and worth, as if we were all nothing but a bunch of commodities up on the market to be auctioned off to whoever has the “best deal” at the moment, instead of human beings (11).

And it’s true! Youth is very important for women. It’s true! Women do like dominant men! It’s true! Men are visual creatures and youth just looks better! If you are a young woman looking to start a family, you will be most fertile in your mid-20s, as well as you will be coming into greater psychological maturity. But that doesn’t mean you don’t still have plenty of time. Nor does that mean that men have plenty of time either. A female baby is born with all the eggs she’ll ever have, and the number decreases as she ages, leaving fewer eggs more prone to be less healthy and of poorer quality in her later reproductive years after age 40 (14). This is true.

Throughout history, because only women can bear children, it was always the fault of women if pregnancy didn’t occur, if a child was stillborn, if a woman was incapable of bearing a male heir, etc… However, with modern science increasing piles of evidence keep coming to light that do signify that men have just as much of a “biological clock” as what women do (8) (6). As well, most of the blame (such as not being able to bear a male heir) that used to fall solely on women, modern science has shown us that men- fathers- are really responsible. Science increasingly shows that both the health and age of the father at the time of conception matter greatly to the health of the offspring and the likelihood of a successful pregnancy that can be carried to term (13). As well, the father determines whether or not that male heir will in fact be born female (12).

It’s like this, if a man can get an erection, he will produce sperm. However, not only do erections start to become iffy for a man past a certain age (for a lot of men this happens sometime in their mid-40s or early 50s (7)), the quality of his sperm declines the older he gets. An 18 year old guy only has to think of a pretty girl for him to get an erection as hard as a rock and he’s ready to go for hours. His 40 or 50-something year old counterpart? Well, it’s probably going to take a bit more than the mere thought of a pretty girl. The erection doesn’t happen as easily, probably requires a bit of hands-on stimulation to get him going, isn’t quite as firm as it used to be when he does get one, and, the truth is, he’d probably just rather roll over and go to sleep than bother to go for a second round.

With the advent of Viagra and IVF, we see older men (who in the past might have had ED that kept them from performing) being able to keep going and even father children, and we see odd things like 60 year old women bearing children. Truth is, neither one of these scenarios is optimal. Around the age of 30 or so, a woman’s fertility starts slowly declining. Conversely, a man’s erections and sperm quality slowly begin to change as he ages out of his physical prime (his teenage years and his 20s), though for both sexes these changes may not be seen so much at first and come on quite slowly. But unlike the limited fertility and sexual power of a mere woman, the phallus is supposed to have god-like status, its potency everlasting; it’s fertility untouched even by the ravages of time. 

Solely biologically speaking, if we go back to caveman times or use evolution as an example, the younger man will be faster, stronger, able to father more healthy children. He’ll be better at providing and protecting than the older man, just as the younger woman will be healthier and able to produce offspring with a lesser risk to her own health or the health of the child. There’s no denying any of these things. If you are a young woman who puts family and finding a man aside to pursue a career, yes you’ll probably regret it. However, the day will also come for a man when he wakes up at middle-age and realizes that, not only is he not quite the looker he once was, and perhaps doesn’t have the job he once thought he’d have at his age, but the young near-virginal 20 year olds aren’t flocking to him the way the manosphere had promised that they would if only he was “successful!” He’s been lied to, just as the career woman has been.

Research bears out that only in 5 percent of married couples is the wife 10 years or younger than the husband (9). So, this indicates one of two things: A) men might like to look at younger women, perhaps even shack up with them temporarily and have sex with them, yet they don’t necessarily want to marry these younger women, or B) while the older men might be game to marry women young enough to be their daughters (1% of all marriages), the younger women just aren’t interested.

There’s a difference between the women a man wants to have sex with, and the women that he wants to marry. Yes, all heterosexual men like to ogle young, attractive 20 year olds and would pay or take risks for a night with them, but that doesn’t mean they want to commit to them! If youth and beauty guaranteed a woman success in marriage and in relationships with men, then wouldn’t it be so easy for women? Just hit the gym and have a guaranteed marriage that will last a lifetime! But it’s not so easy. In a lot of cases, youth and beauty are somewhat of curses for women, as it’s even harder to find a valuable man, as most of the men she meets or that take her out are just interested in sex with her, and she ends up carrying the heavy burden of having to discern their true intentions, a burden that men simply cannot understand, any more than young girls can understand the reality of a young teenage boy’s sex drive.

Over the years I’ve found that I haven’t really aged much physically. Rather, when I look back on the past, it is that innocence and simplicity of yesteryear that I truly feel nostalgic for. I have a better figure than I had years ago- more slender, more perfect hourglass shape and my skin still glows with healthy, youth and vitality. Living a traditional lifestyle being taken care of by a husband and remaining at home as allowed me to retain my femininity- which is what men truly desire from a woman, far beyond any other thing. Consider this: most men that have affairs aren’t doing so with women who are better looking than their wives. In fact, in most cases their wives are better-looking than the women they go and cheat on them with. So, what gives? Isn’t it all about youth, beauty, and fertility? No, more than likely it’s about validation (15).

In the vintage American Comedy Series Petticoat Junction, in the episode Kate’s Recipe for Hot Rhubarb, the widow Kate Bradley was talking to her daughter Bettie Joe about what exactly it was that Billie does to make all the guys go crazy over her. The report reads:

Herby bates says he’s crazy about Billie because she wrinkles up her nose so cute and she makes him feel so strong and masculine…

Ok. Next.

Wilbur Hodgkins says he flips for Billie because she walks so cute and because she makes him feel so strong and masculine…

Next…

Tad Perkins says he likes her because she dresses so cute…

…and because she makes him feel so strong and masculine…

Right.

I just wanted to see if things had changed since I was a girl. They haven’t.

Notice there’s nothing in there about her actual looks- just the ways she behaves (distinctly feminine) and the way she validates the guys’ masculinity. Validation. Of course, it’s supposed to be funny (it is), but it’s also true. Instinctively guys know that no woman is going to look twice at a guy she perceives as “less than” her- he has to be stronger and superior in the ways that matter to a man. And this is true. Every woman wants to look up to her man, no matter what stage they’re in in the relationship and know that he can defend and protect her and take care of her, that he is the one leading her rather than the other way around.

Now, there are two ways in which a guy can increase his own (perceived or real) value relative to the girls’. A) He can work hard to improve himself (a sometimes long and tedious process) or B) He can degrade the girls’ value, usually by putting her down and making her feel “less” than him. When you read articles in the manosphere it kind of makes you feel like shit (if you’re a female), doesn’t it? It makes you feel like you are worth less– which is the intended point. You ever sat and listened to a group of guys talk? Probably about 1.326% of what is coming out of their mouths is historically accurate. Mostly, they’re running their mouths- and there’s a reason for this. Most guys are lost about how to “get the girl” so, especially in their youth, they’ll do things to treat you like crap, call you a bitch or a whore, insult you in front of their buddies, act like they don’t give a shit, etc… (10) Especially teenage guys, they don’t have much they can offer a girl and they’re still quite immature, so the easiest thing to do is to degrade the girl.

Now, that doesn’t mean that you call him out on his game. Part of the game, from the girl’s end, is to make him feel like he’s superior. Most guys don’t get that women want a man’s masculinity but they don’t want him to be a jerk. Realize too that the manosphere and red-pill are full of men who are mostly low-value and have a long history of failing with women, and the owners of these sites have something to sell these men (books, seminars, etc…) so they want to keep the illusion up. When you read stuff such as “The Wall” and AWALT what you are reading is mostly lies and exaggerations with enough discernible truth in it to make it seem, at least on the surface, that it makes sense. Look closer, however, and everything falls apart. What you are seeing is men running their mouths, degrading the value and worth of women in an attempt to upgrade their own value. I’m a “good deal,” baby, a real “catch” so you better swoop me up quick during the limited period of your youth before you hit “the wall” and I take my pick of some of these other hot, young, things that are surrounding me, desperate for my d*** because of my “hard frame” and bad-boy attitude (16).

The reality, when you step away from the computer screen and get out in the real world, oftentimes looks a lot different than the false persona that we create of ourselves in the virtual world. Take an objective look around you, and you’ll see that most of what you read and hear (anywhere in the MSM not just the manosphere) just doesn’t measure up. The truth is, youth and beauty often make it harder for a woman to hold onto a man, and sometimes an older woman is in much better shape and more attractive than an obese, loud-mouth 20-year-old girl. Men aren’t going insane and complaining about modern women because of their looks or their obesity (though it certainly isn’t helping), but rather because of modern women’s attitudes and the way they are displacing men from their traditional roles. They’re angry because they need and want femininity to compliment and validate their masculinity yet can’t find it in their women.

In conclusion, yes, do it while you’re young- for more than one reason. Anywhere you look in life, whether successful people in business, Hollywood, wherever… these people that got where they are today usually hold their positions on account of the connections they made during their youth (sometimes starting as early as childhood). For women or men, if you wait half of your life to find somebody, your options will get bleaker with age. Most have already settled into their lives, carry around lots of “baggage”, have grown hardened by the years gone by, been through several heart-breaks and failed relationships to where they can’t bond like they once did, have already had their families or kids with another, etc…etc… It’s not simply a female issue.

But I can tell you, that it’s never your physical looks or material things that you miss most later in life, but the connections, the innocence, the simplicity, the loved ones you’ve lost- the memories. Do it while you’re young. Make those connections and bond to someone during your youth and work hard to stay together no matter what, because in the end, that’s all that really matters.

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Let It Hurt

Pain and suffering I hold deep in my heart. The feminine suffers pain in the heart and in the body, sometimes caused by the masculine. That’s just the way it is. I accept it, I embrace it, even when I can hardly endure it. It’s hard sometimes to withstand such pain. But I’m a woman. I bleed and I feel and it isn’t always pretty. I don’t always make sense of what I feel or of what I say- even to myself. But I’m a woman. I’m not meant to be understood. I’m not meant to be so stable. I’ll cry. I’ll scream sometimes. I’ll terrify the living Hell out of you with the storm that brews deep inside of me. Don’t try to understand me, just be that fortress that holds strong until the storm has passed.

But would you love me any other way? If I asked you to get down on your knees and cry, to show your softer side, to be emotional, to tell me how you really feel deep inside- would you like it? Would I offend you as a man? Would I be attracted to you if you became more like a woman? You know I wouldn’t, you feel it deep inside. I’d say and insist with my words that I want you to be that way, but I’d only hate you if you truly were. I’d only be repulsed if you truly were. So don’t ask me to shut down the storm inside, even when the waves are threatening and fierce, even when they rock the boat so much that it might capsize. The storm can’t be tamed or contained, only endured. It can destroy and it can heal. It has a dark side. I’ve known this to be true. I know that I feel it on the inside. There is a dark and dangerous side to femininity, as there is a dark side to masculinity. A man in a fit of rage can be terrifying to a woman as much as he is attractive to her, because he is displaying masculinity in its most pure and raw form, as a woman does with her nurturing and her emotions.

But ladies don’t hate him because he’s a man, don’t stamp out that masculinity (and on the flip-side, don’t ever let the world stamp out that feminine light within you. It’s OK to cry and be emotional, just like it’s OK for him to be withdrawn or even a bit aggressive). Just try to understand him, to feel him. And I know. I see it all the more every day. But I also know that peace of belonging completely to somebody, of holding the love of a capable and strong man, and it was worth the pain endured.

I remember how I laughed as we sat in the park eating peaches like teenagers. I clung to his arm for reassurance and protection as we walked together along the dam. Then I turned the heads of all the men who saw me like I always do. But I was docile- I didn’t actively seek their attention. I just existed. I was just a woman, letting my light shine. I know he withdraws, I feel him when he’s about to. He needs to. I need him to. But so long as I can still feel him, so long as I still have the assurance that he’s there, so long as I still have his love. I know that need. A man has to withdraw so as not to be clingy or needy and perhaps even to work on himself to improve himself, to sort through life’s problems the way a man does. That polarity has to exist in male-female interactions and it is ultimately the man’s burden and responsibility to keep the attraction going, even if it sometimes causes panic in a woman’s mind.

I look at the world and how it seems to hate masculinity, and even popular celebrities that decry men who try to run “game” on women. Pick-up-artistry is immoral for men who care nothing for women and seek to deceive them and use them, but men are ultimately doing it for women. Men want and need women and are constantly seeking to improve themselves to get women. Men have to be the seducers, or else nobody would ever be having sex- and that’s truth.

And I think I know. I think I know that on some level the man has to hurt you. It should never be extreme or abusive or with mal intent, but there has to be some level of pain on the emotional level. Sometimes there’s even pain on a physical level. But as a woman I cling to him, need him, and want him to take care of me because he’s strong. I need him to be strong- to be all the things that I am not- but being secure in his love and commitment. No woman wants a weak man any more than a man feels that deep attraction to a masculine woman who’s just “one of the guys”- even if both will take what’s in front of them until something better comes along.

Maybe all I am saying is this- let it hurt some, but only if the man is good and true and his intentions are true. Only for a man that will really always be there for you- your husband on the sexual level and trustworthy other men in your life that you look up to. Just as men have to stay strong and endure the storm that is female emotions (even when they want to run, and many in fact will run away fearing or unable to handle it), allow the man to seduce, to work his game. But only if the intent is to have a better relationship with you, only if the intent is to make himself stronger and more attractive to you and ultimately make himself a better man in the process.

My husband would withdraw a lot and sometimes it was annoying, sometimes I even bitched about it, but I understand that I wanted him to do that some. I didn’t want to be with a woman who wanted non-stop “connection.” But I knew he was committed to me so it wasn’t a problem. So long as I could still feel him, still know he was there and was true and devoted to me and fulfilling his responsibilities towards me, it didn’t matter. He even has women he talks to all the time. I’ve seen women calling him- and I have never even once given a damn because I know he’s good and true. I don’t even have the slightest clue where he is half of the time because I let him be a man and trust in his love for me.

I’ve let the men in my life beat me down some and accepted it when it wasn’t abusive, anyway. If they were just trying to protect me, or retain authority I consented to it. I knew I was being disregarded or pushed aside and I silently consented to it, just the same as I have cried and threw my tantrums and caused some havoc and the men have dealt with it. I’m a woman. I don’t want to be a man and I know that men, no matter what they might say, don’t ultimately want women to be or act like men do. They want women to be women- and we likewise want them to be men.

A woman will test a man, to make sure he’s still there for her, to see how strong he really is. Similarly, men will also test women to see her value and worth; to see if she’ll easily give in to him or if she is worth investing in, to see if she is morally superior to him and his own (often short-term) motivations. There isn’t a single good or bad thing that men inflict upon women that women don’t inflict something similar upon men in return- and that’s life.

Nonetheless, it’s a woman’s burden to weed out what a man’s true intentions are. Many manosphere men are damaged, and they attract damaged women in return. In the end they have nothing. You don’t want men like that and you don’t want to be the kind of woman these men attract and abuse. But don’t be annoyed or angry when he runs game, just filter out the intentions behind it. Men run game to be attractive; to be able to get and keep women- especially women of high value who value themselves and guard their sexuality.

Men are difficult, but so are women. I just tell all the women who read my words what I discover as I go through life, what I see in the world around me and the things I have learned and the things I’ve understood. Understand men and why they act as they do. There are bad men you can’t trust to be sure and men you should protect yourself from (and seek protection from). And that’s our burden, and a heavy burden our sexuality can be to bear at times! I know I feel it every day. I feel the burden of it and sometimes it really sucks. Sometimes being a woman is hard, so very hard and painful. But if a man loves you then you can endure the pain masculinity can sometimes cause, just as a man in love will endure a woman’s words (that she often times doesn’t mean, at least not in the way they come out of her mouth) and emotions, no matter how cutting or frantic.

They are Men’s Issues

There is no issue, there is no complex

As I told you before; I am feminine, I am female, I am woman

We uplift the masculine because it protects us. The women today they would rather degrade themselves and live in filth with men that don’t respect them- to give their bodies away easily as if it gives them autonomy or power in some way. They might find a temporary happiness in this existence, but they will never have true and lasting contentment.

Oh, but I could show you contentment! I could show you fulfillment. Fulfillment and contentment like you’ve never known, never seen.

The world today has become so vulgar because there is no regulation on sexuality; there are no rules. So many are gender-confused and androgynous and we express ourselves in however the individual sees fit. But we must uplift the feminine, uplift the masculine. Not all men are good, but not all men are bad. Look to the men that love you and put your trust in them. Encourage them to be the men they were designed to be, trust in them to speak for you, trust that God or nature has given them that natural authority. Obey that authority and listen to it.

It’s not necessarily that we put our trust in a human being that has faults, but rather a divine authority that has granted to males greater strength and ability. They were designed that way for a purpose. Yes, men might be superior, but isn’t that the way we want them to be? But a woman being under the protection and covering of a man, such as her husband, shows that she as well is favored and beloved and worthy of being given the world.

We were meant to live together as male and as female. We were made for each other. We were not made to be the equals of each other but rather to be as one. There is but one leader, and that is the man. There is but one that carries life and brings it into this world, sometimes suffering severe hardships in the process, and that is woman. And yes, we women are vulnerable when we depend upon a man, but by nature we were designed vulnerable. When we take a man inside of us we make ourselves vulnerable. We were designed to be dependent and weaker by nature.

But letting go, trusting, opening our hearts and our bodies and making ourselves vulnerable, we free ourselves. There is a passion that I cannot explain. It can only be understood by living it. Free yourself to be a woman, to be feminine. If we as women have an issue, the state cannot protect us. Women’s rights are no protection, instead it is about distrust in our men. But we have to trust them. Let them be who they are as men. If we do have problems, the first ones we should confide in are our men for protection or the things we need.

Domestic violence, rape, and single motherhood are things that feminists had no business getting involved in; that the state has no business getting involved in except in special circumstances. They are real and serious issues, but they are ultimately men’s issues as our sexuality and our welfare should be the business of our husbands, our fathers and our brothers.

This doesn’t take away our freedom. On the contrary, it grants to us women the greatest freedoms we have ever known. There is a joy and a peace that I cannot explain. But I know we women today have severe issues. Nearly every woman that I know has suffered some mental illness, even if only temporarily. We have rejected our true natures to pursue independence and shallow relationships with men, if we pursue relationships at all.

When I was younger, I stayed in the home to care for a child. It was work that needed to be done. But the first issue was my bonding with my husband. I lived under his protection, depending on him for the things I needed, listening to what he told me to do and trusting him to protect me. It created an atmosphere of passion and love, where I would wait for him to come home and deeply long for him. Being in the home allowed me to live as one with him.

Having the husband fulfill the breadwinner role was about us being one. It was never, and has never been, about being a “stay-at-home mother” as in some androgynous role that either sex could fulfill or that could be outsourced. It was about contentment and fulfillment that had nothing to do with housework or childcare. There is no “going back to work,” nor has this ever been an issue or in question. Being home is not some temporary thing that I did only because there was work to do in the home and then I would leave to pursue work elsewhere when it dwindled down in a couple of years.

Hate me, love me, but I am who I am. And yes, I have been rejected. But I have been rejected all my life. I care not whether they accept or love me. I can see myself standing there before him as we are to be wed. I can picture him as he lifts the veil from my face to gently kiss me. I can see him standing tall and strong over me. In my mind, how I see it, is that I’m giving myself over to him, to live under his authority, as he is giving himself to me, to cherish, love and be responsible for me. He covers me with his love and strength and I lovingly accept him. And yes, I know that it might come with pain and hardship at times. What life doesn’t? I know that I am vulnerable in depending upon him and submitting to him, but he is also vulnerable in investing in me. But we are one, made for different purposes in life, but each purpose works together towards a common destiny.

But what happens if something happens to him is irrelevant. A man who is in love with a woman and has committed himself to her is very unlikely to leave her, and we as women must trust overall in our men and in the divine authority that has made men our protectors and providers in the event that we are left alone. That is the way life goes sometimes, and we have no way of seeing into the future to know what might happen even when the sun rises the very next morning, but we must trust that a way will be provided for us always.

How is it degrading to be protect or provided for by a man? You women of today will reject any notion of patriarchy, coverture or genuine male authority from the men in your lives yet you will engage in games and role play literally begging for men to beat you, call you names and choke you until you’re blue in the face and do things that I can’t even fathom just in the hopes of feeling some temporary sexual pleasure.

Yet I need no games. I am not degraded. I feel that my body was made beautiful and precious and what a joy it brings. There is no sexual repression, but on the other hand overwhelming feelings of sexuality and sexual pleasure that make all other pleasures pale in comparison. Sexuality that is deep, that is real, flowing through my veins and defining me as female, distinct from any and all characteristics that are male.

Love is overwhelming, femininity is overwhelming. Love and passion are what makes life worth living, of what humans have spent centuries pursuing and writing about. I know who I am as a woman and I don’t need to compete with any man. I know he’s stronger. I know that, yes, he could hurt me. But when that masculine and feminine polarity is felt, I know inside that he won’t.

And the ways of our modern world oftentimes make me cry. I cry that no man will rise up to defend a woman. I cry at the horrific thought that any man would think it OK to see their women sent off to war or expect them to be, that men no longer cherish their women or think to provide for them or protect them; that women would reject any attempts by men to do so, or worse that any man would be OK with being provided for or led by a woman. It is a passion killer that leaves but a coldness and an emptiness inside.

My first instinct has always been to acknowledge a man as a man, to look up to and admire men in general. I am ever glad that in my life I have had very little workplace experience and that I have never been put in the position of being in authority over any man. It would not be right, and indeed, the concept of women’s rights is wrong on a fundamental level. The concept of female empowerment is not right, it is misguided.

We must uplift our men first. Our issues are men’s issues. It has always been men that have made the laws and policies to give us any protections, rights, or freedoms that we seek. I believe that we can trust them to speak on our behalf. I believe that men want to be acknowledged as men and for the things that are distinct to manhood and masculinity and that a man will love a woman who acknowledges him as such.

Because this is not right. It has become an issue of us vs. them. But there should be no separation between us. Was it not men who legislated that a man should pay for the crimes of harming or raping a woman? Was it not men that always went to war to keep us safe? Was it not men who legislated that a man should provide for his wife, his children? I have seen it with my own eyes how a man, even one hardened against women, will soften and become protective towards a traditional woman who embraces patriarchal and anti-feminist ways.

As women we must let go and trust in the masculine. We must be genuine, authentic and trusting in our femininity. If we do that, things will fall into place as they were designed and meant to be.

A Woman Needs A Man’s Masculinity/ Random Rant

But you don’t understand these things that my soul longs for and needs on the inside. I could pull a million creative ideas out of my head, but I could never pull this sorrow from my heart…

I could write a million poems and novels that tell you of my heart, that tell you of my frustrations and my pain, but it will never cure me…

If you listen to those MRA types they’ll tell you that us women don’t want love and affection, yet we do.

I know what I need within my heart, to depend on a man to care of me. It doesn’t make me some gold-digger. It’s all in the motives. It’s only when I stop relying on him and stopping wanting him to provide for me that he should know something is wrong.

When I want and insist on doing for myself then he should know something is wrong.

When we walk down the street, and I don’t feel the need to hold onto him the way I used to; when my hands stay in my pockets instead of clutching onto his arm, then I’m not bonded to him anymore; I don’t need or want or even feel him anymore.

Providing for a woman doesn’t make a man weak, instead it is just the opposite. For years and years I looked up to my own husband, like he was everything. I never made my own money, I never cared for any life at all outside of my family. The fact that he provided for me meant that I needed him, and also that he held a power over me, which is something I always needed and wanted to feel. Do him wrong? “Divorce Rape?” I’ve never been powerful enough to do that even if I wanted to. And how could I take the kids if I’m depending on him just the same as they are???

I was very tame in my memoir, mostly because those in it are still alive. But I know my mother looked at me like I had some mental disorder because I don’t have some career, my grandmother’s always like “YOU DON’T NEED A MAN LIKE OMG! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?”. My stepdad thinks the worst thing a man could do is to try and control a woman and thinks women should be INDEPENDENT and how dare them think a man should take care of them or support them (like, why would I want to support you, bitch?), yet he ends up with gold diggers bitches whores lovely feminine women like my own mother and his ex-wife who would screw him over with divorce rape and child support in a heartbeat, when traditionalist women don’t do those things, mostly because we CAN’T and we don’t believe in those kinds of things anyway. We’re the ones who believe in things like patriarchy and father custody (which is a part of patriarchy, a huge part of it) because we believe our men should be providing for our needs and taking care of us, because we don’t want to be independent women who do for ourselves and fight on the frontlines alongside the men. We want to be taken care of. We’re softer and less take-charge, though I’ve said it a million times, we are NOT DOORMATS.

But I say this- Direct that power in a way that protects me, that honors me, that cherishes me for now and always.

No, I don’t like it if he’s weak. It seems to do something to me inside- it seems to hurt my heart, because a weak man can’t give to a woman what she needs. Not that he can’t be weak at times. I’ve cared for him when he’s been injured, when he’s been down, the same as he has for me. A man can’t go around pretending there’s times when he’s not vulnerable, because that’s not reality, and we can connect the deepest sometimes when we are at our most vulnerable, because you trust that other person with all your heart and soul, with everything that you have and everything that you are.

You know, when I first heard a few years back that only like 20% of women actually orgasm through intercourse alone I thought it was a JOKE, but apparently it’s not. I was like, “Huh? I didn’t know there was any other way..?”

I guess I could tell the world that I could never have it any other way except for the way it’s meant to be naturally (Vibrators? What the hell are those, anyway?), and I can do that because I feel something inside, something feminine. While some women can’t get off once, I’m capable of it multiple times. Oops, yeah, you read that right. Us traditionalist girls do have a naughty side to us, too.

I think part of that is because as a woman I feel something so much more deeper sexually, with that capability to carry life inside of me (even if I don’t want to have more kids, just knowing I have that ability as a female) and to be able to take a man inside of me, gives sex a much more deeper meaning. It’s hard to explain, and I do honestly believe that I can feel and experience much more sexually than what a man ever could, that that is one way in which I, as a female, am superior in some way, but he’s superior in other ways and I love to admire that superiority, just the way that I’m sure that any masculine man who loves women admires those sexual parts of being female in which we are superior, like the ability to bring life into the world- something that men can’t do.

I want a man to be masculine, to be stronger, superior, etc… because something inside of me needs to depend upon him. I feel unhappy and a bit displaced otherwise, like nothing in life suddenly makes sense anymore. It’s kind of depressing, like I could look at him and say, “What’s wrong with you?? Don’t you get it?? Hello???” No, I don’t want you to treat me wrong or do me wrong, but I need you to grab me and tell me what I should be doing, or tell me that everything’s alright, because it’s not. It’s not alright.

Masculinity shouldn’t equate to being a huge jerk who has no honor. As I said, needing to feel a man’s masculinity as a woman means I need to depend on him, and you can’t depend on a huge jerk who you can’t trust who goes around playing women to get them in bed. No woman wants that, not truly. It’s not what she feels deep within her heart.

It’s when I’m trying to do for myself, that he’ll know I’m trying to distance myself from him, but I don’t want it that way. The masculine and the feminine are meant to go together, as one. We were made for each other and the feminists, masculinists MHRM, MRM, MRAs, MGTOWS, and on and on and INSERT RANDOM NAME HERE FOR THE NEXT GROUP OF LOSERS WHO PROBABLY NEVER GET LAID WHO CLAIM TO WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH MODERN WESTERN WOMEN  can’t change the fact that men and women still need each other and actually WANT to be with each other.

Made This Way 

Imagine a world like this: a world that is cold and cruel outside yet a woman can’t be a calm refuge from it. A woman shouldn’t express her emotions or wear her heart on her sleeve. She must adopt the masculine and shun the feminine because the masculine is the only thing that is valued. She isn’t allowed to retain an air of childlike innocence even though she is grown. She must be cold, uncaring and independent. In a world where marketplace achievement is the only thing that is ultimately valued she’s told feminine submissiveness, dependence and the showing of emotions will only repel men. Yet the moment she adopts the masculine values she bears the brunt of every “stick up your ass” joke around.

We live in a world where women are attacked just for the simple art of homemaking and harassed even by those that they love and family members for not having a “job” because once again the masculine is the only thing that has value. Women will medicate themselves just so they don’t do something unforgivable such as daring to cry at work. Modern men complain about emotional women or a woman’s tears yet they don’t like it when women adopt masculine values and become more like the men either. They like feminine women so long as they don’t have to deal with them. They like submissive women so long as they don’t have to take care of them.

Men can write ten-page reports about how unfeminine the modern American woman is using the most vulgar language imaginable and degrading women in every way conceivable yet women are not allowed to say a word about “manhood” or say a word about what they think a “real man” might actually be or how men should talk to or treat women or act around women. If any woman ever talked even a fraction of the way about men that most MRA men talk about women she’d probably be charged with a hate crime.

It’s not OK to be feminine. It’s not OK to cry or show emotion or love or empathy or be nurturing. Baking a pie with love has no value, but making a paycheck does. A woman should be able to drink beer just as good as any man and brag about her inability to cook.

Women are irrational creatures, yet nobody would even be alive in this world if women weren’t as no rational creature would put up with a man’s shit, or want to be penetrated, or deal with pregnancy, etc… It is that irrationality and emotion that brought each person alive into this world and nurtured you when you were yet a helpless infant unable to do anything but suck and scream. It’s that childlikeness that felt and cared and loved. Sometimes it’s unreasonable but it’s not always easy dealing with girl emotions and fluctuating hormones, yet somehow we survive it. Sometimes a woman just needs to cry and sometimes she needs to be told to shut up. Much as the way a child often cries over small things that an adult finds absurd, such is the way with women. Sometimes it’s fit throwing and sometimes it’s real pain. 

It is that lost art of homemaking and showing feminine sweetness and vulnerability that has turned the modern woman unattractive and destroyed the distinctiveness of the masculine and the feminine that should complement each other and work with each other, instead of against each other. But it doesn’t really matter how bad things are, it’s not ok to be traditionally feminine in this world and if you are everyone will hate you.