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About Those “Red Pill Truths:” An Essay

If there’s one thing that’s getting passed around a lot over the internet, it would be the concept of “red-pill truths.” It’s something that increasingly comes to my attention, and as well, there are a lot of people now standing up against the red-pill and calling on men to be honorable and decent, actually having love for women, instead of being narcissistic and abusive. Surely at some point in the future men will start standing up, taking charge again, and saying No more. You won’t do this to our daughters, sisters, and mothers from here on out. Most notable among those starting to speak out against the red-pill are:

InsanityBytes (1), The Night Wind (2), and a brand new site (Christian-oriented) called Red-Pill Fallacies (3).

When you look at it on the surface, these so-called “Red-Pill Truths” have just enough truth in them and sting just enough on the surface as to make them believable (4). It hits you hard at first and you begin to think, well, maybe…But, as with most propaganda, the reality, when you dig a bit deeper, is actually what can be referred to as “half-truths,” or insidious lies and distortions of reality mixed in with just enough truth that all but the most educated and informed become susceptible to it.

Red-pill men and the manosphere in general just love to talk trash about women (remember my post about men running their mouths (5)? Keep that in mind, I’ll come back to it). One of the most notable things they do is exaggerate the importance of youth when talking about a woman’s value and worth, as if we were all nothing but a bunch of commodities up on the market to be auctioned off to whoever has the “best deal” at the moment, instead of human beings (11).

And it’s true! Youth is very important for women. It’s true! Women do like dominant men! It’s true! Men are visual creatures and youth just looks better! If you are a young woman looking to start a family, you will be most fertile in your mid-20s, as well as you will be coming into greater psychological maturity. But that doesn’t mean you don’t still have plenty of time. Nor does that mean that men have plenty of time either. A female baby is born with all the eggs she’ll ever have, and the number decreases as she ages, leaving fewer eggs more prone to be less healthy and of poorer quality in her later reproductive years after age 40 (14). This is true.

Throughout history, because only women can bear children, it was always the fault of women if pregnancy didn’t occur, if a child was stillborn, if a woman was incapable of bearing a male heir, etc… However, with modern science increasing piles of evidence keep coming to light that do signify that men have just as much of a “biological clock” as what women do (8) (6). As well, most of the blame (such as not being able to bear a male heir) that used to fall solely on women, modern science has shown us that men- fathers- are really responsible. Science increasingly shows that both the health and age of the father at the time of conception matter greatly to the health of the offspring and the likelihood of a successful pregnancy that can be carried to term (13). As well, the father determines whether or not that male heir will in fact be born female (12).

It’s like this, if a man can get an erection, he will produce sperm. However, not only do erections start to become iffy for a man past a certain age (for a lot of men this happens sometime in their mid-40s or early 50s (7)), the quality of his sperm declines the older he gets. An 18 year old guy only has to think of a pretty girl for him to get an erection as hard as a rock and he’s ready to go for hours. His 40 or 50-something year old counterpart? Well, it’s probably going to take a bit more than the mere thought of a pretty girl. The erection doesn’t happen as easily, probably requires a bit of hands-on stimulation to get him going, isn’t quite as firm as it used to be when he does get one, and, the truth is, he’d probably just rather roll over and go to sleep than bother to go for a second round.

With the advent of Viagra and IVF, we see older men (who in the past might have had ED that kept them from performing) being able to keep going and even father children, and we see odd things like 60 year old women bearing children. Truth is, neither one of these scenarios is optimal. Around the age of 30 or so, a woman’s fertility starts slowly declining. Conversely, a man’s erections and sperm quality slowly begin to change as he ages out of his physical prime (his teenage years and his 20s), though for both sexes these changes may not be seen so much at first and come on quite slowly. But unlike the limited fertility and sexual power of a mere woman, the phallus is supposed to have god-like status, its potency everlasting; it’s fertility untouched even by the ravages of time. 

Solely biologically speaking, if we go back to caveman times or use evolution as an example, the younger man will be faster, stronger, able to father more healthy children. He’ll be better at providing and protecting than the older man, just as the younger woman will be healthier and able to produce offspring with a lesser risk to her own health or the health of the child. There’s no denying any of these things. If you are a young woman who puts family and finding a man aside to pursue a career, yes you’ll probably regret it. However, the day will also come for a man when he wakes up at middle-age and realizes that, not only is he not quite the looker he once was, and perhaps doesn’t have the job he once thought he’d have at his age, but the young near-virginal 20 year olds aren’t flocking to him the way the manosphere had promised that they would if only he was “successful!” He’s been lied to, just as the career woman has been.

Research bears out that only in 5 percent of married couples is the wife 10 years or younger than the husband (9). So, this indicates one of two things: A) men might like to look at younger women, perhaps even shack up with them temporarily and have sex with them, yet they don’t necessarily want to marry these younger women, or B) while the older men might be game to marry women young enough to be their daughters (1% of all marriages), the younger women just aren’t interested.

There’s a difference between the women a man wants to have sex with, and the women that he wants to marry. Yes, all heterosexual men like to ogle young, attractive 20 year olds and would pay or take risks for a night with them, but that doesn’t mean they want to commit to them! If youth and beauty guaranteed a woman success in marriage and in relationships with men, then wouldn’t it be so easy for women? Just hit the gym and have a guaranteed marriage that will last a lifetime! But it’s not so easy. In a lot of cases, youth and beauty are somewhat of curses for women, as it’s even harder to find a valuable man, as most of the men she meets or that take her out are just interested in sex with her, and she ends up carrying the heavy burden of having to discern their true intentions, a burden that men simply cannot understand, any more than young girls can understand the reality of a young teenage boy’s sex drive.

Over the years I’ve found that I haven’t really aged much physically. Rather, when I look back on the past, it is that innocence and simplicity of yesteryear that I truly feel nostalgic for. I have a better figure than I had years ago- more slender, more perfect hourglass shape and my skin still glows with healthy, youth and vitality. Living a traditional lifestyle being taken care of by a husband and remaining at home as allowed me to retain my femininity- which is what men truly desire from a woman, far beyond any other thing. Consider this: most men that have affairs aren’t doing so with women who are better looking than their wives. In fact, in most cases their wives are better-looking than the women they go and cheat on them with. So, what gives? Isn’t it all about youth, beauty, and fertility? No, more than likely it’s about validation (15).

In the vintage American Comedy Series Petticoat Junction, in the episode Kate’s Recipe for Hot Rhubarb, the widow Kate Bradley was talking to her daughter Bettie Joe about what exactly it was that Billie does to make all the guys go crazy over her. The report reads:

Herby bates says he’s crazy about Billie because she wrinkles up her nose so cute and she makes him feel so strong and masculine…

Ok. Next.

Wilbur Hodgkins says he flips for Billie because she walks so cute and because she makes him feel so strong and masculine…

Next…

Tad Perkins says he likes her because she dresses so cute…

…and because she makes him feel so strong and masculine…

Right.

I just wanted to see if things had changed since I was a girl. They haven’t.

Notice there’s nothing in there about her actual looks- just the ways she behaves (distinctly feminine) and the way she validates the guys’ masculinity. Validation. Of course, it’s supposed to be funny (it is), but it’s also true. Instinctively guys know that no woman is going to look twice at a guy she perceives as “less than” her- he has to be stronger and superior in the ways that matter to a man. And this is true. Every woman wants to look up to her man, no matter what stage they’re in in the relationship and know that he can defend and protect her and take care of her, that he is the one leading her rather than the other way around.

Now, there are two ways in which a guy can increase his own (perceived or real) value relative to the girls’. A) He can work hard to improve himself (a sometimes long and tedious process) or B) He can degrade the girls’ value, usually by putting her down and making her feel “less” than him. When you read articles in the manosphere it kind of makes you feel like shit (if you’re a female), doesn’t it? It makes you feel like you are worth less– which is the intended point. You ever sat and listened to a group of guys talk? Probably about 1.326% of what is coming out of their mouths is historically accurate. Mostly, they’re running their mouths- and there’s a reason for this. Most guys are lost about how to “get the girl” so, especially in their youth, they’ll do things to treat you like crap, call you a bitch or a whore, insult you in front of their buddies, act like they don’t give a shit, etc… (10) Especially teenage guys, they don’t have much they can offer a girl and they’re still quite immature, so the easiest thing to do is to degrade the girl.

Now, that doesn’t mean that you call him out on his game. Part of the game, from the girl’s end, is to make him feel like he’s superior. Most guys don’t get that women want a man’s masculinity but they don’t want him to be a jerk. Realize too that the manosphere and red-pill are full of men who are mostly low-value and have a long history of failing with women, and the owners of these sites have something to sell these men (books, seminars, etc…) so they want to keep the illusion up. When you read stuff such as “The Wall” and AWALT what you are reading is mostly lies and exaggerations with enough discernible truth in it to make it seem, at least on the surface, that it makes sense. Look closer, however, and everything falls apart. What you are seeing is men running their mouths, degrading the value and worth of women in an attempt to upgrade their own value. I’m a “good deal,” baby, a real “catch” so you better swoop me up quick during the limited period of your youth before you hit “the wall” and I take my pick of some of these other hot, young, things that are surrounding me, desperate for my d*** because of my “hard frame” and bad-boy attitude (16).

The reality, when you step away from the computer screen and get out in the real world, oftentimes looks a lot different than the false persona that we create of ourselves in the virtual world. Take an objective look around you, and you’ll see that most of what you read and hear (anywhere in the MSM not just the manosphere) just doesn’t measure up. The truth is, youth and beauty often make it harder for a woman to hold onto a man, and sometimes an older woman is in much better shape and more attractive than an obese, loud-mouth 20-year-old girl. Men aren’t going insane and complaining about modern women because of their looks or their obesity (though it certainly isn’t helping), but rather because of modern women’s attitudes and the way they are displacing men from their traditional roles. They’re angry because they need and want femininity to compliment and validate their masculinity yet can’t find it in their women.

In conclusion, yes, do it while you’re young- for more than one reason. Anywhere you look in life, whether successful people in business, Hollywood, wherever… these people that got where they are today usually hold their positions on account of the connections they made during their youth (sometimes starting as early as childhood). For women or men, if you wait half of your life to find somebody, your options will get bleaker with age. Most have already settled into their lives, carry around lots of “baggage”, have grown hardened by the years gone by, been through several heart-breaks and failed relationships to where they can’t bond like they once did, have already had their families or kids with another, etc…etc… It’s not simply a female issue.

But I can tell you, that it’s never your physical looks or material things that you miss most later in life, but the connections, the innocence, the simplicity, the loved ones you’ve lost- the memories. Do it while you’re young. Make those connections and bond to someone during your youth and work hard to stay together no matter what, because in the end, that’s all that really matters.

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Tell Him He’s Good

As anyone who has ever studied the field of psychology knows, there are no easy answers. You could study and work in the field your entire life and still be baffled by the things that people are capable of doing. A couple of months ago I was with my husband’s aunt and we were re-arranging things and talking. I said something about my husband “running his mouth” about something years ago and she just turned to me and said “Oh, honey, that’s all men!” We both then had to share a good laugh over that one. Of course, any woman over a certain age and with any experience dealing with men knows that to be true (that men run their mouths), and smart women pass this information on to their daughters, as well. But it did get me to thinking about things, and the current state of society, as well as man’s need to feel important and validated, not only by women, but by society.

It’s a need that I can say I have never truly felt as a woman, it’s true. As a woman, I desire inside to be validated, yes, but in an entirely different way. To be loved, cherished, looked upon with desire as an object of beauty and value. These thoughts overtake the fantasies of every woman, and always have.

Recently I have been doing a lot of research into criminal activity, and the subjects recently have delved into the frightening world of terrorism. I will say that there is only so much any sane and healthy-functioning person can take at once before becoming ill and needing to look away and re-focus on something else. It’s unbelievable not only what humans are capable of doing to one another, but also the lengths that some individuals will go just to inflict harm upon others- upon those that they perceive to be an enemy to fight against. These individuals will literally destroy themselves, risking life, limb, and serious harm and bodily injury (not to mention imprisonment and a host of other negative social outcomes) just to target and destroy their perceived enemy.

And, yes, any “normal” person (whatever the heck “normal” is anyway) would say that these people are “evil,” “sick,” and “deserving of whatever is coming to them.” All these things are true, of course. They do deserve to be stopped- and punished- for the protection of society and innocent individuals. There is most definitely something wrong in their minds and hearts. But what is more striking is the psychology behind all of this. People aren’t necessarily born “good” or “evil” any more than they are born as a “blank slate” where everything they are or will ever be is solely a product of their environment. Again, it is more complicated than that. Again, nobody knows as there are really no answers.

One thing that does stick out, however, is a deep sense of pain, rage and hurt. Many isolated individuals and individuals who feel marginalized- especially by the mainstream society- are easy targets for terrorist groups and organizations. Some people whose loved ones get drawn into criminal and terrorist organizations think that appealing to their sense of reason will bring them back. But then again these individuals have no idea the power of human emotions to override all reason and sense. There is no reasoning where the human heart is concerned.

International terrorist organizations such as ISIS have even been known to recruit individuals using red pill/blue pill terminology from The Matrix. They tell them they understand their hurt, their pain and can show them the truth and the way. They offer them a place of inclusion to these individuals who have mainly been excluded and rejected all their lives and suck them in. Before long, the individual is lost and willing to believe most of anything. They reject loved ones, family, willing to destroy their lives for a place of inclusion and the annihilation of their “enemy.” Sometimes the evil comes from a need for self-preservation and sometimes from loneliness and pain that overrides all else until hatred seeps in. Only the slow return of human love and feeling can ever bring them back- if they can ever be brought back at all. The real cost and consequences of their actions are unimportant to them. All that matters is their rage; their mission and belonging to the group. Even those who act alone without belonging to a specific group oftentimes are found to follow and believe in the ideologies of these global terrorist organizations.

And it was this that really got me thinking. We are all really just human underneath, right? Even the psychopath- the dreaded all-maligned creature of evil held up for veneration and in fascination by Hollywood for decades- is still human underneath, as studies have demonstrated that diagnosed psychopaths even have the ability to feel empathy and love- if their brains are triggered to. The only difference being that, in contrast to normal individuals, their brains generally operate in a I don’t give a **** mentality from day to day.

The point of all this, you ask? Well, it got me to thinking about the truth about society today and the relationships between men and women. It got me to thinking about the manosphere and the “red pill.” It’s the same common recruiting technique. Modern men feel marginalized, like there is no role for them anymore. Then you see a lot of these men- in particular young men (and most terrorists are still young men)- having no success with women or getting “used” by women or rejected (that’s what you get for being a “nice guy!-” You beta!”).

Enter The Red Pill. They’ll show you the “TRUE NATURE OF WOMEN” and “ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT” so just come and get red-pilled and open your eyes to the truth and the light! Women are your enemy and it’s OK to “game,” manipulate and abuse them no matter the devastation you cause to society or individual lives. All that matters is the mission and that you remember AWALT. They’ll give you a purpose and identity in a world and society “lacking a positive identity for men.”

Of course, a lot of men come out of it when they finally wake up. I’ve seen a lot of men saying that they joined because they were just looking to be loved. Yes, that is the human condition- to love and desire to receive love in return. I’m not saying that these groups are right- they are not. The Red Pill is trash and I hope one day it’s nothing but a bookmark on the pages of history, but in truth it will probably always exist to some extent in one way or another so long as men are looking for identity and validation in society (and from women).

The problem is that we as women are not giving them that validation. No, you’re not his mamma, but underneath he still wants to be seen and validated as a man. There’s a hidden and silent nurturing that a woman does. Red-pill men are in the wrong and women need to be protected from them and their abuses, but they are still coming from a place of hurt and pain. I know how hard it is as a woman sometimes. There’s a reason for the old adage of the “long-suffering wife.” It’s no myth. It’s a very real reality.

No, women are oftentimes ignored and not believed- it’s true. Men do try to knock women down oftentimes. But we have power and importance in that we civilize and greatly influence our men. We give them meaning in this life. We give our men a reason to work, to believe in themselves, to achieve. Did you know that some of these men will spend hundreds and thousands- give these PUAs and Red Pill cult leaders (who themselves are often one breath away from the very definition of clinical insanity) hundreds– just because they hope to land a woman (either for the night or for a lifetime)? If you’re hurting bad enough- or desperate enough- you’ll be easy prey for the lies and promises of riches, women, grandeur, validation, fame, etc. You’d believe and go along with anything.

So what makes some people immune? Only a deeper understanding and resiliency separates those who succumb to the hurt they feel inside and the hardships they experience in life- hardships everyone experiences- and those who overcome. Only with understanding and resiliency does reason triumph over emotion.

And you think women never had worth? Men have built and torn apart civilizations because of women. If you want them to be men, they will be. If you don’t, they won’t be. It’s as simple as that. That’s the power of a woman. The power of a woman isn’t conquering, fighting, competing. Our power is more subtle. Women have told modern men that they don’t need them. While on the surface most men seem to be going “Great! Sex! Fewer responsibilities! Let her go to work every day instead of me! You wanted equality!” on the inside these men are angry, suffering, feeling as though they have no purpose and their relationships are crumbling to pieces.

And yes, there are women terrorists (an increasing number, in fact, showing that women are becoming more hostile and aggressive and themselves lost and confused), and there are some effeminate and gay men to whom this doesn’t apply. But to normal, heterosexual males, it still does. And the ones who say it doesn’t? Well, look closer. They are generally either single, red-pilled, divorced (isn’t everybody?), drunks, lay-abouts, living with mommy and daddy until middle-age and generally failing in everyday life. Some can’t even hold a job (a problem which goes far beyond the realm of the political).

So, considering, perhaps it’s OK to understand why he runs his mouth. He wants to feel superior. He needs to feel important, stronger, achieving. What does my husband like about the things I write or the way I am? That he’s in charge, he says. Ah, but smart women know better, because we know they do it all for us.

He just wants to know that he’s good.

 

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Listen To Me, Pt. I

I’m not here to say that everything’s OK, because it’s not. I’m not trying to say that everything will be OK in the future, because perhaps it never will be. A repeated question that I have asked myself over the years goes a little something like this: Why me? Good God why me? Why am I so different from everyone else? Why am I such a freak of nature? (Because that’s how I view myself at times, though I’ve learned to embrace it and have gained more self-confidence over time.) I feel what it is that I feel inside, and it just doesn’t go away. But perhaps I’m meant to teach you, to show you a different way than what this world and society tells us. So, if you are a young woman reading this, I do want you to listen up.

And I look at the stats that this site gets oftentimes, and I get a lot of hits from search engines like Google- a ton in fact. There also seems to be a lot of interest in people searching for whether or not married women should go to work and things like that. No matter the lies the mainstream media and Hollywood try to sell us, all is most definitely NOT settled in the hearts and minds of the modern-day woman (or probably not man for that matter either). I try to do the best that I can to teach and to help, because I feel that I was made to write, made to express myself. Of course, for the life of me I can’t figure out why anyone would follow me, it seems people do. So I want to tell young girls and women just starting out in life of a different way to be and to live, to tell something different than what you are hearing all around you and to tell you that it’s OK to stay strong in those beliefs, even though I will tell you that you are going to face a lot of criticism from those around you, especially your feminist mothers and grandmothers.

I know even my own mother, as much as I love her, hates my marriage because I’ve always been dependent on my husband. They want me to be independent at all costs. My maternal grandmother also disowned me last year as well, not only for my differing religious beliefs but political ones as well. They are the type of women who you will hear wanting the goods of tradition yet boasting that “Women are becoming more independent” and saying things like “It’s still a man’s world- but all that is changing now!” Most likely these types will be Republicans and conservatives/moderates who are anti-abortion and pro-Trump supporters. They will tell you how abortion is evil and how they aren’t feminists and don’t hate men yet at the same time be like “You go girl! Get that college degree! Depend on nobody but yourself!”

Sometimes I go through this alone, it seems, and I know that there are plenty of other young women who want a different and better life than what their own mothers lived. You’ve seen their failures, their misery, their stresses, multiple marriages, and the whole juggling career/motherhood thing that just doesn’t work. They can’t seem to keep a man around, or only attract bad ones and drag them in and out of marriage counseling every other year and continuously get burned to where they eventually just give up entirely on men. But there is a different way.

I will tell you now not to waste your youth. But I don’t say this because there is some kind of “wall” where a woman loses all value once she hits a certain age- there’s NOT and don’t believe anyone who tells you there is (namely low-value men with revenge fantasies against the women who rejected them in their youth). It’s only that there is something special about bonding with a man from your youth. There’s something precious about it and relationships established during your youth cannot be replaced. Guys shouldn’t waste their youth either because it’s important for bonding, loving and building a life with someone but I’m mostly here to talk to the girls.

I was a mere 16 years old when I first met him and bonded to him and I wasn’t much older whenever we married. And since I have depended on him the entire time, I’ve never known any other life other than the one I have lived with him. It’s hard to explain how that feels. For a man, it wouldn’t be the same, but for a woman, it changes everything. I’m very soft and delicate because he’s taken care of me (but don’t think that makes me weak, because I’m anything but it). Yes, I cry. No, I’m not a child, but neither am I a man. I have emotions and I express them, but he understands that. In fact, he says that’s one of the things he loves about me. The world we live in today wants to medicate away those emotions and call them unhealthy. Abusive men seek to employ psychological techniques to try to silence a woman’s emotions and “manage” them (which only causes the situation to get completely out of hand).

But that’s not love. That’s not bonding. That is annihilating the very feminine essence that makes a woman precious and unique. He understands me like no other. I can be a handful to manage at times, but he just holds me when I cry until I calm down. After a while I stop crying because he’s calmed me and I just lean into his chest and bond to him all the more. And that bonding is also a highly a sexual bond. If I don’t desire him, then I’m not feeling bonded to him.

In the world we live in today, sex is promoted as a casual and androgynous thing, and if you, as a woman, cannot reach orgasm, then it is obviously because you don’t know enough about your body, aren’t “empowered” enough and aren’t expressing yourself enough and being vocal about your needs, etc.. etc… but I fail to see the wisdom in this mainstream bullshit- and so should you.

I’m not ashamed to cry. I’m not ashamed to want bonding and love. Last night I reached for him, desiring him, because I wanted to feel secure and loved in his arms. He didn’t have to abuse me or hurt me to make me desire or want him. In fact, it has always been quite the opposite. Yes, it’s a personal thing for sure, but I have said before that I’ve never had a problem orgasming. I’ve also said before that I don’t masturbate, I don’t engage in stupid games and role play. I don’t get all “kinky” or anything. I don’t like that stuff. It strips away, in my mind, what the real and true meaning of sex and the purpose of it is. And if you think for one moment that it’s boring or anything of the sort then you’re wrong.

I try to explain what goes on in my head, though it’s kind of hard sometimes. In my mind it’s so sweet. I was given to him when I was so young and I depended on him to protect me, provide for me and lead me. And even now, I’ve never truly known anything else. I refuse to believe that I’m some freak of nature just because I can have an orgasm! It’s funny how in the modern world women are so empowered and are supposed to be sexually liberated but most have never even had an orgasm during sex and then you see articles and talk about how maybe it’s not even natural to have one!

But it seems so natural inside. I’m just simply expressing and feeling what is feminine so deep inside of me. And the truth of the matter is that the most feminine women are emotional, don’t make any sense, and are largely dependent on a man to take care of them. That is just a fact of life. Like I’ve also said before, the thought of paid employment has always weighed heavily on my heart because it would strip away my dependence on him. It would separate me from him. It changes the game entirely and that’s why I’ve always had a problem with it. But I am by no means lazy. I work hard every day. I’m up before the sun every morning, yet I’m still feminine. I’m still dependent.

I have no obligations outside of the home, then I just submit myself to my husband and rely on him. Sex is good and beautiful and part of what makes it so is because I’ve been with him- and only him- since I was so young. I don’t like girl power positions or anything like that. I lay down and let him admire my body. It’s OK to let him inside because I know I’m safe. He gives me everything I need and it’s easy to relax in sex. It’s a psychological thing as well as an overwhelming physical thing. It’s only best when it completely overwhelms me. I can feel him so deep inside of me, and that’s what’s precious about it. It’s precious because my sexuality is precious. It’s pure and sweet and there’s nothing degrading about it. I tell him that I feel bonded to him and feeling his strength and feeling him cover me is part of what makes it relaxing, when I feel safe.

I couldn’t ever see how I could feel the same being an independent, empowered woman. I’ve never known *how* I orgasm. I just do. I just feel that I’m a woman. It’s easy to open up to the same man you’ve been with since you were young and let him inside. It’s easy to share yourself that way. I’ve seen some red-pill types try to say that it’s impossible to keep being attracted to someone in a monogamous relationship, or that only “alpha” bad-boys can make a woman “wet.” I have to wonder what planet they are living on if that’s the way they live their lives. Even more than a decade on I’m still having sex with him, still desiring him.

When traditional gender roles come into play and the man is the leader/provider/protector a woman’s husband will always also be her lover (assuming she actually does love him). She will still desire him even when he lets his guard down and acts natural. Like I love my husband for who he is, so long as he’s being the man I need him to be. If he ever started trying to employ “game” on me or anything like that it would hurt me real bad. I’d pull away from him and not trust him. I’ve said before that the fact that I depended on him created an atmosphere of passion and love where I’d always long for him- and I did. We have always been best friends, companions, lovers. I’ve cared for him in his weak moments and laughed at his dorky ones. That’s the way it’s meant to be and I feel sorry for men out there who believe that the only options in life they have to keep a woman attracted is to either be the “alpha” who keeps a harem or to constantly go from woman to woman living the single life and never settling down. I also feel sorry for women who have to play games and let men treat them badly in order to be attracted to a man.

It doesn’t have to be that way. You can be deeply fulfilled and have passion beyond your wildest dreams. It’s Ok for him to lavish gifts on me because I belong to him and he provides for me. I know he thinks I’m beautiful and that doesn’t turn me off. There’s a big difference between some “beta” chump who goes around following a woman with puppy dog eyes lavishing gifts on her in the hopes that maybe- just maybe!- he might get a yes one day and a man that lavishes gifts on a woman because she belongs to him. I remember my own husband, when talking about something, making it clear that I belong to him when we were talking about him providing for me and everything.

And I will write more in the future. I just want to try to make a few pieces to share with younger women (especially I’m trying to aim for the girls in their teenage years especially to prepare them and help them) showing them a better way and life to live. You don’t have to start having kids right away (or have any at all), but bonding and allowing yourself to be given over to a man (hopefully one close to your age, even better if you grew up with him or went to school with him, so you can grow together) to take care of you in your youthful years can give you lasting bonding/passion and a stable life that will last for decades.

To keep this post from becoming any lengthier, I’ll write more in the future to try to delve deeper into the issues of sex, bonding, femininity, etc… But for the young girls out there, don’t start having sex with multiple men and babies with more than one guy, whatever path you choose in life. It’s OK to pursue a passion or dream that you feel called inside to pursue but if you pursue college education, career and independence just simply because that’s what society has told you to do or those around you like your family are pushing and pressuring you to do so, then you may never know the truth depth of femininity and bonding with a man that comes from relying on him.

 

Other Reading:

 

Why Women Shouldn’t Work

 

Mom for President

 

http://athriftyhomemaker.blogspot.com/2016/07/the-war-on-femininity-part-2-female-role.html

 

https://insanitybytes2.wordpress.com/2015/12/31/always-listen-to-your-wife/

 

 

 

Not a “50s Housewife”

Can I just say one thing? Ok, I hate the 1950s. seriously. I hate it that when I say that I believe in stuff like traditional gender roles and that I’ve always stayed home and stuff like that that people immediately start thinking “1950s.” Ugh. I hate that era. Personally, I see the 1950s as a time of female superiority if you want to know the truth about it. I actually think the era was quite feminist. It’s always been clear to me that both of my grandmothers were always “in charge” in their marriages. The 1950s weren’t traditional from my point of view. I mean, women were already voting and a lot of wives were already starting to join the workforce and stuff like that.

I don’t act like a 1950s housewife nor do I dress like one. Ok, well, I do kind of like stuff like vintage dresses and bikinis, but because I think they’re cute, not because I’ve got a thing for the 50s or anything like that. I used to have some vintage dresses but they fall off of me these days so I haven’t worn them in years. But, anyway, back to the subject. We’re not rich. My husband doesn’t “have money.” We’re just simple people, and I’m just a simple girl.

I know I’ve said it before, but when I say “housewife” I think a bit farther back to the times when husbands were actually in charge. I don’t think of high heels and perfectly permed hair so much as I think of bare feet, waist length hair (for a woman) and simplicity.

I also don’t like people that think housewives are somehow “lazy” or anything of the sort. I don’t sit around eating bon-bons all day, watching soap-operas, and writing “honey-do” lists while having an affair with the pool boy. I would also hate to think that a man only wanted to provide for me just because of the way I look. That’s why I would never want to be with a rich man, unless I knew in my heart that that man truly loved and cherished me for the long-term and would always do so.

My husband provides for me 100% financially speaking, as I believe it is his responsibility to do so, but he’s also in charge of everything too. For instance, he gave me a credit card on his account I could use for a while but then he took it away from me last year after I came back home. (He said it was because he got a new card, but I suspect the real reason was to take independence from me so I wouldn’t leave again. In either case, he never gave me another one.)

He gives me things I want and need, but he also has the power to say no to me or take them away from me too. And yes, I accept this even though I’ve suffered pain and frustration and I still accept it no matter what others might think about it, because it confers security on me and protects me. I’d rather accept this life than the life of the modern woman with all her unhappiness, unstable relationships and lack of ability to raise and care for her own children every day.

You want to talk about lazy and entitled? It’s the men these days that are lazy and entitled, just as much or not more so than the women are. Men who talk about how their wives need to “get a job” or go around bragging about how they’ve got their wives in the workforce full-time and stuff like that or how that they’d never support no woman. It’s these same men that also complain about women being spoiled and entitled “not wanting responsibility”, when in reality men are just as bad and lazy as modern women.

In his latest article, Jesse Powell talks about red-pill men moving on to a higher-functioning stage in the wider culture. Undoubtedly I think a movement like this will grow, and that it needs to, but what they advocate for is unsustainable and unworkable when it denies male responsibility for women, so in the end it will result in men having obligations imposed upon them instead of it being all about exploiting everything to their advantage and screwing everybody else and the damage left in their wake.

From the Daily Beast article he quoted:

On The Red Pill, Fisher commonly expressed disappointment that the institutions of marriage and religion were destroyed by women’s equality. He maintained that as a result of financial independence, women were no longer compelled to remain faithful and as a result, men needed to protectively adapt their sexual strategy.

Ok, so how are women going to be financially dependent if men don’t fully financially support their wives? Only for a mere six weeks did I hold paid employment out of nearly a decade of marriage, and it was only to separate from him. I never worked for money, neither inside nor out of the home, and my husband never had to play a bunch of head games just to keep me sexually attracted to him or invested in the marriage.

By “protectively adapting their sexual strategy” what do they mean? Screwing as many sl*ts as possible? (Because that it sustainable for society when you leave illegitimate children all over the place, and that’s sure to help them with all those “pregnancy scares!”) Or perhaps he means playing a bunch of stupid head games that will result, at best, in keeping a woman’s interest for a whole six months- if that? (Because that will obviously lead to a high-functioning committed relationship when one person is a narcissistic abuser.)

“To give women autonomy is to take away the very thing that made marriage a realistic institution… what I dislike is the general attitude that somehow we owe [women] something for sex… Women enjoy the autonomy that feminism has afforded them… But don’t expect the relics from back in the day to continue to benefit you without the sacrifices you were making,”

Well, don’t expect the relics YOU enjoyed back in the day to continue to benefit YOU without the sacrifices you made as well. And I’m unaware completely of any traditional relics from back in the day that women are still enjoying out in the real world. To deny the breadwinner role (for men) is also to take away the very glue that once held marriage together. Men enjoy the easy ride and easy sex feminism has afforded THEM. And women sacrifice more in sex and bring something to the table men don’t, every society in the history of the world has recognized and given credit to this undeniable fact. Get over it.

“Marriage, and yes, female oppression, slut shaming, religion, these were all a means to control hypergamy [infidelity]. Marriages might be considered loveless, and women might have been unhappy, but for men it meant marriages that lasted, commitments that continued, and protection against the fickle whims of females,” Fisher wrote on The Red Pill in November 2012.

Yes, never mind when men chase after “bad girls” that will only screw them over or when husbands disappear or  cheat on their breadwinner wives with a poor woman that makes him feel more like a man. Not to mention that you run a simultaneous marriage strike and spend all your time chasing after the very sl*ts you claim to hate. A traditional woman deserves a traditional man.

But, in conclusion, stop it with the 1950s stereotypes. The 1950s were a whole world better in many ways than today, but the era still wasn’t traditional by my point of view. But if I would ask anything of men today, it would be to please stop this. Please do something about the state of affairs today. It isn’t a woman’s job to fix it. It’s a woman’s job to be “good” and to accept a man’s authority (when and where it’s legitimate). These are your daughters, your sisters, your mothers, your wives/future wives and mothers of your children and all of the women you know and love. They aren’t some outside enemy or foreign invader to get rid of and punish at all costs. They’re your own people, of the same blood and heritage as you. Girls and women today grew up/ are growing up never knowing the stable relationships, protections and security that were afforded to our ancestors- just the same as men. Stop acting like you’re some kind of special oppressed snowflakes. Your grievances have merit, but I think they’re exaggerated beyond belief and only tell one side of the story.

I know from experience there are just as many traditional men as there are women, it just seems like there aren’t because most of the time men just remain silent. They watch and listen, but they don’t comment, they don’t form opinions or organize and protest. For decades they’ve left all of that up to women. But if there’s anything good happening now, it would be that it seems men are finally taking some kind of action, even if they are, as of now, in a rage and sorely misguided. But if men take action, women will follow, and men that accept responsibility (such as a husband keeping his wife out of the workforce and providing for her) can still impose the rules on women even when they are unwilling. YOU don’t expect that “privilege” otherwise. The man that loves a woman provides for her and he protects her- even from herself. I’ll only know the red-pill is “highly-functioning” when their men strive to do just that.

Viewing Women as Expendable

I’m doing something that I’ve loved to do so many times before. I’m secluded with nothing but the tranquility of nature to sooth me. There’s no sounds of the modern world for as far as my eyes can see and as far as my ears can hear. There’s nobody around. I love to lie out on the ground under the sun, my raven hair left free and natural to fall in waves down my back, no shoes on my feet.

I’ve discarded all my clothes. I do revel in my sexuality, my femininity. The softness of my breasts exposed to the light of the sun, I love to bring my left leg up from the ground to cover my most intimate places, accentuating the soft and full curves of my hips. It’s true that somebody somewhere might be watching, but I don’t see anything. I don’t hear anything. It’s a sharp contrast between a woman privately indulging in her femininity and a woman spreading her feminine energy and body around knowingly to many men.

But what good are these breasts, if without a love to caress them, to suckle them deeply and gently? What good is a 25-inch waist, if he don’t wrap his hands around it? I was sad and I was lonely, so I asked him to be with me. He got in the truck and I got in the passenger side and we began to drive off, but he hurt me so I asked him to turn around and take me back home. I then took off by myself.

I don’t want this independence, what I want is love. But he gives me no love anymore. I feel miserable and I feel lonely. I can’t remember the last time a day went by without me crying. I want to share a deep love. I want to laugh and smile and be happy. I love the feeling of driving an old pickup truck down a country road with my hair blowing in the wind. I love the simple things in life. But it’s no good without someone to share life with me.

I don’t care about expensive things. A castle is a dark and empty place when you’re all alone. Makeup and pretty clothes are pointless if you don’t have a man to enjoy the sight of you in them. I’m lost on the inside, somehow drained of all life and all hope.

 

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Men come to the red-pill full of anger, loneliness and pain. The first thing they learn is to lose all love and affection for women. I find this sad. The only thing they will ever attract is women that are just as broken as they are; women that are not mature and won’t do them right. They spend their lives looking for some mystical p*ssy paradise that doesn’t exist, as if they can travel in droves to some foreign country and beautiful “10’s,” (who are so NOT sl*ts like western women!) will flock to them willing and ready to engage in hot threesomes with them at the drop of a hat.

Sorry, but there is no such thing as a p*ssy paradise. Neither is there any such thing as a submissive housewife with a career. You can’t have both. In societies where women do all the work, (such as historical Native American tribes), yeah the women did most all the hard work (if any actually got done at all), but the property and children belong to WOMEN. If your wife got sick of you, she could just take your shit and set it outside the home as a signal that she was dismissing you. A man would own nothing but the clothes on his back (and his weapons). The house and kids were hers. Ouch! So much for the paradise of a good little housewife who also has a career!! But a society like this also never goes anywhere. Native tribes around the world where women held their own and were independent from men were nothing but primitive. While that might be peaceful in some ways, it’s a harsh and rough existence, and men in no way had it easier than women.

Red-pill isn’t traditional. It’s a bunch of woman-haters looking for revenge. But guess what? That will only make your life miserable. If you live your life to hurt others, you will only end up destroying yourself. It’s a life lived without love. It’s a miserable existence and it also shows immaturity. Lots of people are sick of the shit going on these days, they’re sick of feminism, yet at the same time they perpetuate it. I mean, if things were good in society, it’s unlikely that Donald Trump would be president.

You see women as expendable? You see other human beings as expendable? You get sick of them one day and just dump them? Red-pill men like to talk about nothing but how to use and abuse women. They want power with no responsibility. But guess what? It doesn’t work that way. The sad thing is men today are supposedly even physically weaker than what their fathers and grandfathers were- and I believe it.

What kind of society do we live in where men are taught to hate and compete against their OWN women. We’re talking about people of the same nation here, hating each other and loathing each other! How many civilizations can survive civil war like that? And it doesn’t look like we’re doing too well. The women are independent, out-earning their men and even their husbands. They’re also obese and masculine and promiscuous. Men are demotivated, soft, and weak. Both men and women are sick of each other and can’t even form any kind of meaningful relationships!!

Traditional society, yes men own the property and the children (within marriage). But they also had responsibilities. We talk about coverture, which was a good system. The husband did hold all the power, but he couldn’t just kick his wife out when he got tired of her or she did something to displease him. He still had to support her. He still had to provide a home for her. My marriage was probably the most stable and prosperous of any others I’ve known. It’s mostly because of my sexual exclusivity and financial dependence. The two things go together.

I could talk about how men are all day, but there’s problems on top of problems with how modern women are acting. First, you LET these men treat you that way and use you. Stop allowing it! Plain and simple. No matter if you love the man, you must have boundaries. First things first, stop allowing men sexual access outside of a committed relationship (preferably marriage, but these days anything so long as there is real commitment and he’s being responsible).

I’ve said it before, it’s not about seeking dominance over men, but a man simply doesn’t have the RIGHT to control you or have access to your body unless he’s already taken on the appropriate responsibilities. Once he has responsibilities in a committed relationship with you, then he gets to have things his way. But never before that point! Just like in coverture, a woman was a single woman with pretty much all the same rights and responsibilities as a man, but at that point of commitment the man took responsibility to protect and provide for her, and in return he got the rights of property, children, and sexual access whenever he pleased.

Second, stop seeking to be like men. Stop seeking to out-earn them or compete with them. Hit the gym everyday, stop cutting your hair in all these funky ways that make you look terrible. Nobody’s perfect, man or woman, but we can all do a lot better to improve OURSELVES instead of bitching about the opposite sex and about how your wife/girlfriend won’t “get a job” or how men are pigs because they don’t like the fact that your ass hangs off both sides of the chair when you sit down.

Hurt people hurt people. Immature people and people not confident in themselves act in narcissistic ways. It doesn’t have to be that way. Have love in your heart, be a good and honorable person, but have boundaries and life goes a lot smoother. Modern women will always be unhappy with their lives if they follow feminist ways. Modern men will also always be unhappy and miserable and dissatisfied and nothing will ever change unless they ditch the part of the red-pill and modern thinking that seeks to absolve men of masculine responsibility and embrace the parts which DO teach good things, such as the fact that men should be dominant and in charge, and no the sexes are NOT equal. Authoritative benevolence, that’s what it SHOULD be about. Women aren’t men and seeking to expect women to be “adults” in the sense of holding to the responsibilities of men or being given the same rights and set of expectations is completely unreasonable. Plain and simple. It just doesn’t work that way.