Former United States President Abraham Lincoln once stated, concerning who he was as a man, president and a public official, “I must not only be chaste, but above suspicion.” Mr. Lincoln knew that propriety- in both his public and private life- was a necessity, as all of our ancestors once did, in order to be seen as credible, respected and taken seriously.
When it comes to such issues that society deals with today, such as sexual harassment, or even the marijuana issue, for instance, it is clear that our society is asking all of the wrong questions, as well as focusing on all of the wrong issues, and this is mainly so because nobody wants to touch the electric barbed-wired fence that is feminism or any of its related issues. As well, Americans in general seem to have this whole “It’s a free country, so I can do whatever the Hell I damned well please” kind of outlook on life- even though such a view is largely fictional and holds no realistic standing under the law.
Law enforcement officers on every level are held to certain codes of ethical behavior as they are representatives of the law and of our social customs and values- and the President of the United States is the highest law enforcement officer in the land. It’s even more telling that ethical codes of conduct are being dropped even in the lowest standing trial courts of the land, where shootings and violence are now routine occurrences and foul-mouthed behavior has even become commonplace amongst prosecution and defense lawyers and judges.
Whether anyone loves Donald Trump or hates him, he is, nonetheless, a reflection of who we are as a people. He directly reflects upon us- and any group of people, if they are to survive and coexist with one another, must have a certain set of rules, laws and policies that govern their behavior and their interactions with one another. Culture and law are not separate from one another, but rather reflect upon and influence each other.
My take on this sexual harassment issue is that, yes, it is a load of BS. I think most people at this point would agree with such a consensus, despite the prevalence of the #MeToo movement and other “girl power” schemes that encourage women to be “strong” and stand up against “misogynistic” men (no mention of men having any actual duty here, other than perhaps to be “good little boys” who follow the rules feminism has laid out and be dictated by the whims and rule of females). However, the laws and policies against sexual harassment- as well as other related social issues- came into being for a reason.
As a society we can conclude that family is important, the care and well-being of children is important and essential, and as well, if we can conclude all of these things, we can also easily conclude that sexuality- and in particular female sexuality- is of upmost importance to society. Sexuality plays a central role in all of our lives from the very moment that we are born (if not before). Therefore, the regulation of how we (both males and females) express ourselves sexually and what we do with our sexuality is always going to be of concern to society.
Where once social custom and common law largely dictated the “rules” regarding sex and sexuality as well as family arrangements, all of the old restraints and boundaries have largely been done away with in modern society, necessitating the creation of entirely new polices and laws to take their place because the behavior (including sexual behavior and codes of conduct) of individuals in any society must always be subject to regulation and boundaries. Without regulation, there would be no civilization as individuals would have free reign to trample all over the rights, dignity and personal/property boundaries of one another. It would be a true case of survival-of-the-fittest and the people would still eventually have to come together to form a system of regulation and government, even if only informally.
If we, as a society, wish to do away with the post-feminist polices that have disrupted the order of family relations, relations between men and women and have created distrust, suspicion, burn-out, and placed antagonism between personal and romantic relationships and men and women, then we must replace the current laws and polices with other laws and policies that we might conclude to be more effective and fair to all parties.
It is not unreasonable for society to conclude that, with males being physically larger on average and stronger than females, as well as being the ones who penetrate and impregnate, that men should be held to higher standards of behavior in regards to how they conduct themselves towards and around women. The same holds true in regards to interactions of adults around children (even though these restraints, too, are largely being eradicated). We’ve dropped the idea that men should take care of women to replace it with the (entirely irrational and ineffective) fantasy idea that men and women should be “equals” and compete with one another entirely independent one sex from the other. Our laws, policies and social customs now reflect this viewpoint. But is such a thing rational, effective or productive? And to what ends?
Yes, I, as a woman, take offense at many aspects of Donald Trump’s behavior towards women. Blatantly disregarding and refusing chivalry to the First Lady, multiple divorces, offensive public discourse regarding women, scandals surrounding alleged extramarital affairs with porn stars and Playboy models, all show an appearance of impropriety, turning the presidency into little more than a joke and a position that cannot be respected nor taken seriously and clearly showcasing how low we as a society have sunk to. (If our law enforcement officers and elected officials do not even respect the rule of law nor hold themselves to ethical standards of behavior then why should anyone else? How can we respect such a rule of law or system of government at all?)
Without a doubt, all men are thinking the same things that Donald Trump has gone and said out loud. It’s just the way men are. They look, they fantasize, they like women and they like *****. Nonetheless, social custom (as well as common-sense) used to dictate that, just because a man thinks it, he should, nonetheless, be held to a certain standard of behavior in how he talks and behaves around women. Custom used to also dictate that women had a corresponding duty to be chaste and command respect from men, which is just as equally important.
As even some writers in the manosphere have stated, speaking out against their own fellow men, there isn’t a father in his right mind who would want his own daughter to come into contact with men who comport themselves in such a way; with “players” and men who act in narcissistic, abusive, Machiavellian, sadistic and perverted ways- the very behaviors that the red-pill and Pick-Up-Artist types teach men to become; the very behaviors that feminism has also allowed and encouraged. And being that Donald Trump is often heralded as a hero in the manosphere I’d say this is very telling for who and what we have become as a people. Why? Because all standards of ethical and appropriate sexual behavior and boundaries have been washed away. We are a civilization in despair seeking hedonism to relieve the pain, loneliness, brokenness and torment of our modern existence. We are a civilization without restraint, without control.
We can create any policies and laws that we as a people want. However, there is a cause-and-effect relationship with any law and policy and each law and policy proposed has to also be examined for its effects upon society and the individuals who will be subjected to said laws and policies. They must be evaluated for their effectiveness as well as reasonableness. The current laws, customs and policies simply do not function well to create order, stability, harmony, and prosperity. They don’t function well and will, inevitably, have to be re-written and done away with to be replaced with more workable and logical laws and policies- no matter who it might offend. And it will always offend somebody.
Gender equality doesn’t work. It’s that simple. Men and women are not the same nor is our sexuality the same. Until we, as a society, can acknowledge such a thing, there will be constant antagonism and war between men and women. There will be no peace. Nor can we make this a conservative vs liberal thing, or a Republican vs Democrat thing. It is a society-wide issue that reflects upon our culture, our nation and our values as a whole.