“And to any Mangina who might be reading this: These are YOUR women. Why are you letting this happen? Why are you handing them over to government, to feminists? Especially American men abandoning their own to seek a wife abroad. One in four of them is medicated for depression or anxiety these days. If you guys can’t even manage your own, what makes you think you deserve one from overseas? Those have only turned out better because their men DID THEIR JOBS. You, like beaten dogs with a tail between their legs, skulking off to lick their wounds, leaving YOUR WOMEN to rot. That’s cowardice. A captain who abandons ship isn’t worthy of his rank. Shrugging like a sullen teenager “well it ain’t my fault”. Come on… Are you really fool enough to believe you have no power, no inﬂuence?!” (Happy Housewife)
Today we have a nation full of whiny crybaby men. If you look around for a while you will see entire groups of them whining that women are bad, women are evil, women are just as abusive (even sexually) as much as what men are. That men are really the victims of some unrecognized epidemic of female on male sexual assault and violence but the feminist court systems refuse to recognize it, etc…etc… They spend much of their time being paranoid about aggressive women and complain that they must live by women’s rules. They’ll whine and cry that they want equality with women and that they’ve been oppressed and dragged down into the dirt and are victims.
If these “men” would have been men in the first place none of this would have ever happened. Their solution is to abandon women, to hate women. If women are “bad” then they in turn are going to be “bad” and irresponsible as well. The truth, however, is that if women are out of control it is ultimately the fault of men. Just the same as if we have a nation of undisciplined, disrespectful and out of control youth it is the fault of adults. The problem can be traced back to adults being irresponsible and not doing their jobs as parents. Likewise, if women today are being bad, disrespectful and out of control the fault can be traced back to men being irresponsible and not doing their jobs in most all cases.
“Is it wrong to treat a child like an adult and on that basis refuse to provide for the child or to punish the child by abandoning the child rather than giving to the child corrective discipline and then continuing to care for the child as before? Of course; such behavior towards a child is child abuse. Well, a woman’s status relative to a man is similar in many ways to the status of a child relative to their parents. It is abusive to a woman to refuse to provide for her in a marital context. It is abusive to a woman to deny her basic provision and protection when she does wrong to a man when corrective discipline can be imposed upon the woman instead while the woman continues to receive the basic support and protection she needs. When a woman is “out of control” it is the fault of men requiring male intervention to fix the problem just like it is the fault of parents when their children are “out of control” requiring intervention from adults to fix the problem. Just like parents are never entitled to abandon their children and deny their responsibilities towards their children and just like adults as a community are never entitled to abandon their collective responsibilities towards children overall men are never entitled to abandon women and deny their responsibilities towards women and men as a collective body are never entitled to abandon their collective responsibilities towards women overall.”(1)
If a man’s wife is acting bad, it is his responsibility to control her. It is his responsibility to protect her, even from herself. It is his duty to care for her, love her, protect and support her. If she is acting bad then most of the time it is because the husband himself has been irresponsible and not doing his job of providing for and protecting her. When one’s children act bad, the parents don’t just say “I’m outta here!” and abandon them because such a thing would be abuse, it is morally wrong. The children need the parents and if they are out of control then it is the job of parents to impose law and order upon them, including disciplining (not necessarily always physical discipline) them as appropriate to correct the misbehavior. Likewise, although women are not children, in many ways a woman’s relationship with a man is childlike. In most cases women choose men who are older than them. They like men who are more successful than them and physically stronger and taller than them. Just the same as a child might crawl up into an adult’s lap to sit or be held, so too is it common to see a woman climb into her husband’s lap in like fashion to spend time with him or so that he can comfort her. I have never seen a man crawl into a woman’s lap to be held and comforted. A woman is a creature of her emotions. Today’s society says it is just a “stereotype” but in truth it is reality; reality backed up with scientific evidence even. A man is often more stable emotionally and does not make as many decisions based solely on how he feels at the moment. Men and women reason differently. Psychological research has shown that even when men and women are performing the same tasks we use different parts of our brains. The man is often the one to comfort the woman by holding her and letting her cry and protecting her. Just as parent’s first and foremost duties are to their children, so should a husband’s first and foremost duties be to his wife (which also takes care of the children).
Modern society says women should be responsible for themselves and be “independent” and equal partners with their husbands and anything different is wrong. So for a man to control his wife in any way is “wrong,” even if it protects her and protects the marriage. The government has authority over citizens, parents over children, teachers over pupils and bosses over employees. But for a man to have authority over a woman is wrong, wrong, wrong! A man is no longer held to the responsibility of supporting his wife, of protecting her from harm, of controlling and being responsible for her actions. Domestic Violence legislation like VAWA is the inevitable consequence of man’s removal from authority and responsibility over wife and children. If women are to be left on their own then they must turn somewhere for protection from men who are in most all cases stronger and more powerful than them. And so strong has the women’s movement been that even the slightest attempt by the husband to control has wife (such as saying she can’t go somewhere or blocking the doorway) might be considered abuse. Even the highest courts in the land have ruled in favor of gender-neutral laws that prohibit the man from being authoritative and being held responsible for his wife and he must share in the rights and responsibilities in regards to his children. He cannot make any decision without also consulting his wife.
“Every vow, and every binding oath to afflict the soul, her husband may establish it, or her husband may make it void” (Numbers 30:13)
If men are victims today, it is because they have run away from responsibility. If a woman is out of control it is the responsibility of the husband to fix the problem and fix the behavior. His authority and responsibility should be set in the law codes and as a general rule others should not interfere unless he is failing in his duties. For instance, if he has done all he can to control his wife and nothing is working then the community might try to interfere and reason with her and if that too has failed then the law might have to intervene if the problem keeps continuing. But first and foremost it should be examined why the husband has failed in his duties. He is responsible and he must be held to answer.
The wife should be required to submit to her husband, unless what he has asked of her is immoral or he is attempting to impose his responsibilities upon her (such as commanding her to go to work to ease his workload or put herself in danger so he can be a wimp and hide behind her). If he has become cruel to her or truly abusive to her and is harming her then intervention might become necessary. First maybe the men closest to her (such as her father or brother or other men or even women that are friends and family of the husband) can intervene on her behalf and let the husband know what he is doing is wrong and they do not approve and will shelter the wife if necessary. If that doesn’t work then a separation might be in order where the husband must still be responsible for her support.
It is the responsibility of men to protect women and support women. If women today are out of control then it is the responsibility of men to fix the job but they are never justified in abandoning women. It makes no sense to me why a man would want to be “equal” to a woman. I mean, are you a man or are you not? The phrase “being a woman” doesn’t have near the impact that the phrase “being a man” has. Generally someone might say “stop being such a woman” implying that the person should stop acting weak or emotional. But on the other hand when someone says “be a man” it implies strength, courage and power. It implies a higher level of responsibility and expectations upon one’s conduct and accomplishments. If one were to say “be a woman” it would just sound kind of odd because generally to be a woman one need only have been a female that has reached physical maturity. On the other hand to “be a man” it does not simply imply physical maturity but carries the expectation that one must prove himself. Likewise, if a man were to yell “woman!” it would pack a heavy punch because it implies authority and commands attention. On the other hand if a woman yells “man!” she would probably only get as a response a few raised eyebrows and probably a round of laughter because there is no such underlying meaning of authority or commanding of attention there. In fact, saying “man!” has been a slang term for generations.
It takes time to really achieve societal change and change existing laws, but it is something that we must advocate for. Instead of rejecting responsibility or running off and abandoning a woman who acts bad or out of control men must instead assert their authority or the problems will just escalate.