Monthly Archives: December 2013

My Random Reply to a Feminist

I just can’t help myself- I just can’t. Most of the time I ignore feminists but on occasion I just have to reply. Seriously it’s always the same old tired argument that feminists make every time they see one of us “ignorant” anti-feminist women types who have apparently never read a feminist book in our lives. So, anyways, the rant was long enough to make a blog post out of. Enjoy (or not).

Night Owl” says:

“I would like to challene the writers to take a moment before condemning “all these ‘liberated’ women” to “miserable lives”. Before the women’s liberation movement, women were property, not individuals. A married woman could not have a checking account or a credit card in her own name. she was referred to as “Mrs. John Doe” rather than “Jane Doe.” The reason we submissive women have the luxury (yes, luxury) of ‘choosing’ a submissive lifestyle (and not being forced into one) is because of the work done by women and men in the civil rights and feminist movement.
Submission is not a black-or-white characteristic. It exists along a continuum from Gorean slave to the occasionally submissive switch. While I am not offended by your words, I ask you to please not pigeonhole me, a strong feminist woman AND a submissive, by your own personal experience of submission.”

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Oh please. You feminists keep spouting off the same lies after lies. The reason married women were “Mrs. John Doe” and why they didn’t have credit cards in their own name was because husbands had the legal obligation to support their wives and married women had a right to be supported by their husbands. A married women could go to the store buying household necessities and her husband was legally obligated to pay. Being “Mrs. John Doe” instead of “Ms. Jane Doe” was a mark of HONOR not a status symbol for being inferior. It is only you feminists that downed housewives and the role of mothers as nurturers and knocked them off their pedestal and privileged position in society. Now look around you. Your husband can DESTROY your credit and he doesn’t have to support you even as the mother of his child. He can dump you whenever and not have to pay you a shred of alimony (oh, yes, here comes the feminist argument that men *never* payed their alimony. I’m sure you’ll be quoting Phyllis Chesler any moment now) and mothers are no longer even protected in child custody (hey, you didn’t want to be weak submissive nurturers, did you? And feminists are so concerned with men nurturing children these days they could care less about the natural and time honored role of mothers in young childrens lives) so don’t bank on being protected there. In fact, what you are saying is nothing more than lies that the media keeps promoting because they don’t want women to know the truth about our history and the fact that even in the oldest days of coverture even before Married Women’s Property Acts and the like married women DID have the option to control their own money (if they worked, but why would they want to when they were protected at home and honored in their roles as housewives and mothers?) and keep their own property if they so chose. My grandmothers owned property back in those *terrible* days before women’s lib. My maternal grandmother always had a career because it was a CHOICE she made, nobody forced her to stay home but also nobody forced her to be equally financially responsible for the family the way women are forced by LAW to be now because of women’s lib. My paternal grandmother stayed home until the kids went off to high school. Nobody put them down. Women were never property and I mean NEVER. I have traced back our laws and traditions back hundreds of years to the laws of England and never were women dogs or slaves and to say that is a complete misinterpretation of history, a bald-faced lie. There isn’t a single thing that women have gained from women’s lib. No-fault divorce legislation and the ERA (which thankfully never passed) that feminists pushed for have robbed women of their rights and choices. The only “choice” gained by anyone was the choice of men to no longer have to accept their rightful duties towards women and children. The choice of husbands not to have to financially support their wives. I don’t know why I’m arguing with a feminists in the first place because you all are just a broken record, spewing out the same things the way you’ve been trained all of your life. And if you wish to tell me how feminists don’t hate housewives, save your breath. I would be willing to bet us “submissive” women know more about your feminism than you feminists do and that’s exactly why we hate it that much. I refer to myself as Mrs. ********* ******* because it is tradition and tradition protects and honors women much better than any liberation movement cooked up by a bunch of career oriented feminist women.

Why I Believe in the Traditional Family

Broken doesn’t even begin to describe my home life as a child. I never knew what it was like to live with both my parents. They divorced when I was just a baby. The only thing I knew growing up was a life with my parents warring between each other and constantly being pulled in and out of court. My dad sure would have made even the most prominent of father’s rights activists and MRAs very proud. He seemed to be very traditional in the sense of wanting women “in their place.” He even spoke very enthusiastically about how women were denied the vote in the earliest days of American history and how fathers were always granted custody of their children yet he loved all the goods that women’s lib had brought to him and other men such as women being forced into the workforce and men no longer having to actually support their wives. My mother was just a teenager when they met. He was already in his early 30s. My dad took advantage of her when she was in a state of trouble and I guess she fell happily in love. They married and I was soon born. It didn’t take long before my mother began to realize what kind of a man he really was. He was the upmost of all controlling men. Yet he never wanted anything to do with any kind of real responsibility and never once did he cherish and honor his wife nor me. He was also involved in all kinds of dirty deeds that my mother never wanted me to have to be around. She finally gave him an ultimatum that he had to change or she had to leave. He never would change nor act right so she left. Of course, when she left he used the family court system to attack her and make my childhood nothing short of hell on Earth. My dad would always claim and fill my head with how much of victims men were and how much our society “just hates fathers” yet he was always successful at working the court system and getting away with anything he wanted.

With my mother I find a different story. Growing up right at the tail end of the heydays of women’s lib she was always a modern woman in every sense of the word. She had mentioned here and there of how she did always want to just stay home and have children yet the women’s lib mindset was still there nonetheless. I’ve seen throughout my life how she has gone from one man to the next, one marriage to the next. She has always followed the very path that feminism has set out for women whether she intentionally set out to or not. She had truly been harmed by every man that she came across. She remarried when I was about preschool age yet no good was to come of that either. I remember how it was always my dream that my mother would just stay with me. I just didn’t understand at that age why she always had to head off to work and why she couldn’t just stay with me. She was always in a hurry and never seemed to have much time to give to me. Her second husband ended up cheating on her and abandoning her and my brother. She filed for divorce by herself because he was nowhere to be found. He never showed back up. She would go on to remarry yet again. It’s a never ending cycle just the same as it is with most men and women in our world today and the shattered families that are so common.

I don’t remember much about my younger years. When I was older however I had many issues because of the home life I was forced to grow up in. I know I was very much loved by my mother but she was so emotionally unstable that I could never really get close to her nor have a happy life when I was with her. I’m sure I did mean something to my dad, although he confided in me once that I was just a tax refund at the end of the year (and an obvious pawn to control my mother and make her life hell). I married as a teenager(about 18) and distanced myself from him. The rest of my family moved out of state.

I see the harms everywhere around me of what the destruction of families has done. I wanted to know so desperately why my home-life was nothing but hell and why men didn’t care for women anymore and why everywhere around me they just used and took advantage of women. I was just an innocent naive girl who grew up to find herself in a world where my father’s treatment of my mother and denial of responsibility was all too commonplace. I thought maybe feminism was a movement that was supposed to stop men from treating women like that. After all, to hear my dad tell it, women didn’t have rights until very recently. Was I ever wrong! Of course, I’ve since learned many things in life and, through hours and hours of research, learned that I was told a lot of lies growing up and also that women today are still being fed the same lies I believed for so many years. As it turned out feminism is what enabled men like my father to treat women the way they do. Feminism is what has ultimately enabled men’s groups to harm women and children and families.

I always wanted to be nothing more than a housewife and mother. Becoming pregnant at a young age was a dream come true. I was old-fashioned in every sense of the word, including letting instinct take over and privately having a baby right in our very own bedroom. I didn’t want to miss a thing about being female. But there were many things I didn’t know and many things I didn’t understand. I was brought up in a world where marriage and homemaking weren’t supposed to be careers and men didn’t have any necessary obligation to support their wives and could abandon them any time. I couldn’t cook, sew or clean all that well. Because of my past I had a hard time still trusting my husband. I still didn’t understand a whole lot about history or feminism or politics in general. ( I wish I still didn’t have to understand anything about politics but that’s the unfortunate world we women live in today).

Once I learned more about things I understood how much we are lied to and how much there is a desperate need now to fix families. Women did have protections once from men like my own father and there was a time when most women did not have to suffer like my mother did. There was a time when most children actually grew up in intact families where men were men and women were women. Unless we are to revert to a matrilineal kinship system there will have to be laws set in place to protect the family. I believe traditional families to be the best. My own personal changes changed my husband to be the best for our family. I think most men can still be led back into their traditional roles if women encouraged them and insisted upon it. And for those men who don’t treat their wives right and abuse them women would be protected under the law and by society.

I believe in traditional families because I know feminists lie. I know MRAs lie. I know the media lies. They don’t want women to know the truth because a woman who lives a life at home where she is cherished and sheltered and can delight in the roles that only she as a woman can truly fill would be very unlikely to voluntarily return to the workforce or still believe in feminism as a good thing. I began calling myself a believer in traditional women’s rights because it is the most overlooked pressing issue of our time. I believe in traditional families because I believe true women’s rights revolve around the very things that feminism has stolen from women- the very things the traditional family unit gives to women. I want to be able to give my child a better life than the one I had growing up.

On the Need for Patriarchy: Another Case Against Unwed Fathers

Here we go again. Oh, yes, that’s right MRAs, “women have all the rights and men have all the responsibilities”- or not. Another case that caught my attention earlier. Here we are again, this shows our desperate need for patriarchy and stable family units. Men being allowed to claim paternal rights to children whose mothers they were never legally married to is a terrible thing and has caused the destruction of many intact families as well as forcing women to be single mothers or go into hiding to protect themselves and their children. I say patriarchy because patriarchy is male responsibility and men caring for and protecting women and children. It is power into the hands of a married father to prevent the destruction of his family and prevent another man from interfering no matter the genetic relationship. This is why marriage is important and why the traditional family matters. No woman should have to share her reproductive life with a man who refuses to accept responsibility for her and create a real and true family with her. Yet that is exactly what is happening to women today. Through our view of “equal rights” the sexes must be treated the same no matter how illogical. And since the 1970s unwed fathers have been allowed to walk into children’s lives without having to offer marriage and financial support to the mother in return when she becomes pregnant. Now not only do men get the rights that once belonged exclusively to married men without having to take the same responsibilities, denying responsibility now comes with a whole host of legal and economic benefits for them. Until we realize that feminism doesn’t work and the traditional family is the only sure protection for women and children (and men too), these problems will continue to occur. The media, however, doesn’t want to report on this because it would mean backtracking and “setting the women’s movement back.” Setting the women’s movement back, however, is exactly what is needed.

Pregnant Women Baby-Factories First, Humans Never

“Sara McKenna briefly dated Olympic skier Bode Miller in California in 2012 and became pregnant. Miller rejected McKenna’s requests for his involvement as a father. When McKenna asked Miller to go to an ultrasound with her, he refused and told her via text, “U made this choice against my wish.” It’s hard to interpret this statement as anything other than Miller wanting McKenna to get an abortion.

Seven months pregnant, McKenna decided to go to college and moved to New York. This didn’t sit well with Miller, who began legal action to declare his paternity and gain custody of the child. After he’d refused to support McKenna through the pregnancy and be an active father, he turned around and demanded custody.

When McKenna had her child, a boy she named Samuel Bode Miller-McKenna, she filed for custody in New York. But in May, the family court rejected her claim, accused her of “unjustifiable conduct,” and bounced the custody case back to California. This is highly unusual given that the baby was born and lived in New York.

In September, Miller and his wife came to McKenna’s home and took Sam away. Thankfully, the New York appeals panel has overturned the family court ruling, and the custody battle will be decided in New York.

The family court ruled that McKenna “did not ‘abduct’ the child,” which really shouldn’t have to be stated at all. Of course she didn’t abduct Sam—he’s her own son, and at the time, he was living in her uterus and not exactly easily removed. But the court insisted, “her appropriation of the child while in utero was irresponsible, reprehensible.”’