Taheyya Kariokka

“I love my work. I love it, really. I don’t love anything in my life but my work.”- Tahia Carioca, 1994

Sometimes in between the mundane and insignificant things in this life, such as musings over how Rachel Brice manages to move her body as though she were an actual snake, or how much of a gymnast one truly has to be in order to pull off a back-bend like Nejla Ateş, comes a truly fascinating story that, among other things, showcases how little human nature actually changes over time and across national boundaries. One such fascinating (perhaps even somewhat sad or tragic) and one-of-a-kind story can be found in one of the darlings of Cairo’s golden age, Badaweya Mohamed Kareem Al Nirani.

Badaweya Mohamed Kareem Al Nirani (1919(?)-1999), professionally known as Taheyya Kariokka (Tahia Carioca), was an Egyptian actress and dancer, primarily in the 1930s and 1940s. Though largely unknown to the Western world, she starred in somewhere around 300 classical Arabic films and is known as a pioneer of sorts to true studied students and enthusiasts of belly-dance.

Coming from a respectable family, Taheyya was the product of a marriage where her mother was forty years younger than her father. Her father apparently went through a few marriages within the family, being left swiftly widowed before settling for marrying an outsider (Taheyya’s mother). Despite her youth, it took Taheyya’s mother a full four years to conceive a child (fertility issues on the behalf of the aging husband, perhaps?), and then- much to her father’s dismay- the child was a girl.

Taheyya’s mother fled to return back to her family soon after Taheyya’s birth, leaving Taheyya to be raised primarily by her paternal grandmother. Soon after her father’s death, Taheyya’s much older brother took custody of her, imposing discipline whenever he would catch her dancing [being a dancer was- is- generally looked down upon in that part of the world, with one of the worst insults you could hurl at a man being to call him the “son of a dancer” and you’d be hard pressed to find many Arab women willing to become dancers as most dancers in the Middle East are actually Western imports] on her in a manner that would be considered extreme child abuse by today’s standards. (Taheyya’s mother reported to the authorities about this behavior, attempting to get her daughter back, though they refused to intervene). She eventually fled from her brother at a young age, leading to a series of events and interactions that would make her one of the most famous dancers of her day.

By all accounts told about her, Taheyya was a rebel and perhaps even the perfect example of the quandary of the modern-day woman. She was famous for her sharp tongue and had quite a reputation for debauchery, having an (admitted) fourteen husbands.

“No, what was clear and unalterable: men had made her life hell! And perhaps the fault was not all theirs. Even when she was young, even when she was broke, I defy anyone to find a picture of Madame Tahaya which doesn’t show her eyes alight with mockery. What love can withstand it’s glare? And as she herself told me in so many words, men did not desire her. At first I heard deserve, but no, desire was what she had said, and desire was what she meant. A soft clap of disdain followed, washing her hands of all men. No, the husbands, all thirteen of them, were in love with “Tahaya Carioca,” whoever she was! And, as if to underline the point, Tahaya treated all of them with a man’s directness, divorced them like a man, paid them off like a man. It was as if only by playing the tough little businesswoman could she underline the gulf between who she was on the screen and stage and who she was in reality.”[1]

Like many modern women, she had a career. Above all, her career always came first for her. That combined with her sharp tongue apparently drove all the men away one by one. Like many modern women, she could attract many men to her, but she could never hold onto them. (Supposedly) not believing in having sex before marriage, she instead engaged in what could be termed as serial monogamy, marrying and divorcing one man after the other in a series of relationships that never lasted very long, until her final marriage to a much younger man finally bankrupted her after an 8-year long court battle.

She was superior in her relationships, and fiercely independent. She took the initiative to divorce and always paid her own way (even with her numerous divorces). One of her marriages was to an American Air Force officer. She followed him to America for a short time before she then apparently became bored(?) with American life, divorced him, and headed back to Egypt.

Her political life was quite interesting. I guess you can’t really expect that a fiercely independent woman like Taheyya would just sit on the sidelines in times of war or political upheaval. But no! She gave asylum to political allies (some even members of her own family), did some time in jail for conspiracy against the crown and even helped in weapon smuggling and training to join the resistance in the mid-50s.

As well, you’d dare not insult a woman like Taheyya, and even royalty were not immune, as it is said she insulted King Farouk and his second-wife, refusing to dance at their wedding by exclaiming “I have already danced at the wedding of the Queen of Egypt!” In yet another instance, reports say that she also slapped the former king across the face as well (some reports say it was because he threw an ice cube down her dress).

Taheyya would grab her shoe anytime she was offended or felt threatened and wave it in the person’s face, and, again, neither royalty nor Hollywood A-listers of the day were immune. Husbands weren’t immune either, apparently. In at least one known instance, she caught one of her many (soon to be ex-) husbands, Rushdy Abaza, with another woman. Off came Taheyya’s shoe as she then began to teach the other woman a lesson before proceeding to obtain a divorce from Abaza and move on to the next man.

But despite her success, fame, and marriages to A-list celebrities and directors, her life was a hard one, and not exactly one to be recommended. She could never conceive children of her own (something that apparently saddened her greatly), but instead adopted a daughter. By all accounts she was well educated, proficient in French and English as well as her own native Arabic. She also had a kind heart, despite her fiery ways, always willing to open her doors to the poor and needy. As she began to age, however, she began to put on a lot of weight, becoming very heavy and, by some accounts, also very crude and vulgar, no longer being the suave seductress that she once was. Later pictures and films that she played in showed her to be very heavy, and the final divorce that she underwent took a huge financial and emotional toll on her, leaving her to seek out whatever menial roles she could find for herself in an attempt to rebuild her life. Towards the end of her life in an interview she was asked by members of the press, “How many husbands?” to which she then replied “Five right ones. I never was happy. My work always came first. For this, they run away. I took two months vacation every year, the rest I worked.”

At the end, in her final years, she returned fully to her Muslim faith, donning the veil before passing away at the age of 80(?) from a heart attack in a Cairo hospital.

Taheyya:

 

More about Taheyya:
http://thebestofhabibi.com/vol-13-no-3-summer-1994/tahia-carioca-and-samia-gamal/
http://thebestofhabibi.com/vol-17-no-4-dec-1999/tahia-talks/
http://thebestofhabibi.com/vol-17-no-4-dec-1999/farewell-to-tahia/
https://raseef22.com/en/culture/2016/10/04/amazing-life-legendary-taheyya-kariokka-dancer-actress-rebel/
http://www.hossamramzy.com/articles/the-stars-of-egypt/taheyya-karioka/
http://www.gildedserpent.com/art43/sausanTK.htm

http://www.nytimes.com/1999/09/22/arts/tahia-carioca-79-dies-a-renowned-belly-dancer.html

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Victimology

Victimhood

Victimology– or the study of crime from the unique perspective of the victim. It’s an interesting thing, really. It would seem to fit under the broader scope of sociology, but being as how it relates to criminal justice, it actually falls under the broader category of study known as criminology.

The one thing one learns when studying victimology is the impact that crime actually has on the victim, which leads to the idea that the law should put focus onto the victim, as opposed to solely on the prosecution and punishment of the perpetrator, as if the law and society owes something special to the victim or has a duty or obligation to the victims of crime.

On the flipside, the study of victimology also showcases why some people become victims. Without a doubt, it’s not right to put the blame solely on the victim when the blame should rest on the one who has actually done the wrong. Just because somebody is at the wrong place at the wrong time or is acting without caution doesn’t give anybody the right to commit a wrong-doing against them. However, the reality of life is that most people who become victims of crime become victims because they put themselves in a situation that exposes them to criminal acts, or they associate with others who themselves are criminals. This is borne out by the evidence. While there are some things that are out of our control, we all have the power to control our own destiny.

It could be said that the rise in victimology as an actual scientific field of study gave rise to the idea that some people, or groups of people, are “victims” of society and deserving of some special status or compensation or recognition by the government as such. This could certainly be said to be the case of the women’s movement that brought us new legislation to change the definitions of what constitutes violence and rape. One wonders how the female half of the human race (or the human race at all) has survived for millennia when before feminist domestic violence and rape legislation we were at the mercy of these misogynist beasts society likes to call men. Does it make sense that the stronger half of the species (males) would be programmed to want to harm the weaker half of the species (women)- the half of the species that is infinitely more valuable to the very survival of humanity?

If you look at the mission statements and goals of these organizations that offer help and services or run shelters for abused women, you’ll notice that it’s not really about protecting women from violence or rape, but rather about challenging the idea that men have any right to control or power over women. Go to any of their websites, and this idea is clearly stated quite boldly. Even all the way up to the United Nations, the goal is actually “gender equality” and “the empowerment of women.” In other words, at the heart of it all is stripping men of their power to govern society and family life and have any say in the well-being or sexuality of their women. The real goal isn’t even about protecting women, but furthering political aims. It’s about disempowering men and dismantling patriarchy.

But men don’t really like to be knocked out of their place of power. Yes, feminists, this is true. Their roles are changing and they don’t like it. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Men need to feel that they can protect and provide. Without that role, then what role do they really have? Men need to feel strong and powerful, it’s how they’re made. The stronger women get and the more “empowered” women become, the more hostile men and men’s organizations become against women. Men then start to wage war against and fight back against their own women- whom they should be protecting. Emotional/psychological abuse, utilizing of the family court systems, and even outright acts of violence and aggression are all methods utilized to maintain power and control and keep women “in their place.” This creates the cycle of hate and victimology, strengthening the feminist cause. Feminists and women’s rights organizations and their political allies can then use men’s groups as examples of why extra legislation is needed to protect women from male violence. The more powerful women are, the less men like it. Just look at places such as India, which is purported to have the strongest men’s rights movement in the entire world. Yet I’ve noticed feminism is pushing hard over there. I can’t research anything without getting constant sources from India. Am I the only one?

The Realities of Life

Consider this scenario. A woman walks into a place alone. Let’s say she’s walking into a place where a party is going on and people are drinking. Alone she’s fair game for any male that has evil intentions on his mind. He has nothing stopping him from using any trick on her or just outright grabbing her. She’s pretty much fair game, no matter how much she believes in women’s empowerment.

Now consider the opposite scenario: A woman walks into the same place, but this time with a man who’s arm she’s securely holding on to. The other men might still have evil thoughts running through their heads, but this time there’s a significant barricade in their way- the presence of the other man. In order to get to the woman, the man that the woman is with must first be disempowered. He must be removed from his position of power and influence over the woman.

Of course, this has happened countless times throughout history. A woman is with a man (her husband, boyfriend, male relative), yet perhaps the man is overtaken by a group of guys who incapacitate him, leaving the men free rape and harm the woman. Whether on a personal level or for a society as a whole, to do harm to the nation or its women you must first disempower their men.

Of course, the feminist will point out that men do indeed sometimes harm the women they are supposed to be protecting, and this is true. But it is still the best protection that can be offered up to women- that of a husband, father, brother or male relative to protect her. Looking at the design of nature, there’s no real question that men were designed to be able to protect and provide. So why, then, does it make logical sense to disempower men?

A woman is least likely to be harmed by her husband, but it isn’t really about that, is it? Laws have been changed to re-invent the very definition of violence. Violence is now defined as anything a man might do in order to control a woman. The reality is that there have always been laws against a man beating his wife and rape used to be punished much more severely whenever women were expected to guard their sexuality.

Not Every Man

You guard the things that are most valuable to you, and when the most valuable of items is stolen or damaged, the punishment for the harm/theft of those items is expected to come quickly and severely. The feminist position on rape is that sex happens when the woman says it does- that she and she alone has the right to have sex when she pleases, become a mother when she pleases and express herself sexually in the way that she and she alone sees fit. Society and men have no say in it. This renders the value of female sexuality valueless, as it is up to the individual to set the price for it, meaning female sexuality in general is not seen as something of upmost value to be protected by the fullest extent of the law and guarded. A man taking a woman’s sexuality or having sex with her is only in the wrong if the woman does not consent to it at the moment, not because he is in a special position and relationship with the woman where he- and he alone- is allowed access to her sexuality.

Coming back full circle to the idea of victimology, no, blaming the victim is never “right” or “just” but in the area of rape and domestic violence there has to be some level of double standards. In order for rape to be taken seriously, girls must be taught from a young age to guard their sexuality as if it was truly valuable and of great worth. There must be some responsibility placed upon a woman and that of the men who are supposed to be acting as her guardians (who’s responsibility, power and authority was the aim of feminism to destroy) to guard her sexuality. If rape is to be taken seriously, it cannot be left solely to the discretion of the individual woman to set her own price on what the value of her sexuality is, but rather there must be some societal-wide standard that says that female sexuality does have intrinsic worth and value and that the allowing of any man to access her sexuality who does not have the right to be accessing it (ie., her husband) is either a crime (rape) to be punished by the fullest extent of the law or something to be frowned upon by society (promiscuous sex or a woman willingly allowing a man below the status of husband to have access to her sexuality) with stigma attached to it. Because if it’s valuable, it must carry a heavy price tag. If it’s not valuable, then who even cares about it? Don’t we all have better things to do than worry about meaningless things?

Subsequently, the same must be true for acts of violence against women. As should be the case with a woman’s sexuality, there needs to be a distinction made between the men who have a right to control a woman- and the men that don’t. Specifically, if the man is not her husband (or close male relative who is responsible for her), the man has no right to control her- excepting in the cases that the man is an officer of the law carrying out his legitimate duties to uphold the law. If a man is not a woman’s husband (or father), then there should be punishment for him trying to impose his will in any way on her.

In some cases in our world today men have been accused of “domestic violence” just for grabbing their wives by the arm too hard (because it’s a sign he’s trying to control her). I read a case a couple of weeks ago where the wife herself couldn’t even get the law to back down on the issue. (I can’t verify the source, however, because I don’t remember where I read it. I considered it unimportant at the time and was busy with something else). If a man is truly harming his wife and causing her severe mental distress or harming her physically, then the larger society needs to step in to stop or punish the man. In some cases, separation might be necessary, but feminist crafted domestic violence legislation should not be.

If it is simply a man attempting to control his wife, unless he crosses the line, then the issue should be left alone. Each case of claims of domestic violence (if the man and woman are married) should be decided on a case by case basis by of judge of whether or not a criminal act of violence has been committed, plain and simple. And greater consideration should be given to the husband’s testimony while still ensuring that a woman (or child) is not truly in any physical danger.

But You’re Not Special, Sweetie

 

“Patriarchal institutions are a two-way street, and if men ever supposed they had the power to control the lives of their womenfolk, they were, in so thinking, obliged to support and protect them.” [1]

 

On the flipside of this argument are MRAs who do not see women, nor their sexuality, as valuable. Instead, MRAs see women as expendable sex objects and are only concerned with their own supposed “rights” without any regard for the welfare of the weaker sex or the true safeguarding of the nation’s family. Even when they supposedly give consideration to the children, they are really only concerned with their own “rights,” with no regard to true inalienable duties they have to women, children and society. They see no reason why they should protect women or be responsible to provide for them. They fuel the hatred that feminists feel towards men and keep the cycle going.

But if men ever suppose they should be in charge of anything, or that they should control women and have the right to a “virtuous” woman or the stability of an intact family where their paternity is assured and their position as father is secured, then they should also assume that they have duties associated with such a position of power. After all, a leader’s duty is not to himself, but to his people. A ruler in charge of a nation has the responsibility to see that his people’s needs are met and that they are safe and cared for. The position of a man within the family should be no different. You can’t have it both ways.

Men cannot expect easy availability to “sluts” and yet have a nation without widespread illegitimacy or “false rape charges.” Men cannot expect to be “in charge” without having the responsibility to support women. Nor can men take on female duties (childcare, staying home while the wife works) without expecting that they will be made fun of in the media and their status degraded in the eyes of society.

The laws of Rome gave fathers power because fathers had the responsibility to provide the support, as was the way in generations past in America and the rest of the Western world. As with Rome, a man could even have to answer for his wife’s misdeeds, so he had certain discretion in controlling her and setting punishment.

A Better Way?

Men have a duty. Women have a duty, even if the concept of duty to anyone but oneself is an alien idea in the modern society. Society shouldn’t seek to disempower men, but rather disempower women. The greatest power of a woman is the influence she has over her family. The responsibility should largely rest with men to protect their wives and daughters and for women to submit to such control.

Is there really any better way? If so, society has yet to find it.

About Those “Red Pill Truths:” An Essay

If there’s one thing that’s getting passed around a lot over the internet, it would be the concept of “red-pill truths.” It’s something that increasingly comes to my attention, and as well, there are a lot of people now standing up against the red-pill and calling on men to be honorable and decent, actually having love for women, instead of being narcissistic and abusive. Surely at some point in the future men will start standing up, taking charge again, and saying No more. You won’t do this to our daughters, sisters, and mothers from here on out. Most notable among those starting to speak out against the red-pill are:

InsanityBytes (1), The Night Wind (2), and a brand new site (Christian-oriented) called Red-Pill Fallacies (3).

When you look at it on the surface, these so-called “Red-Pill Truths” have just enough truth in them and sting just enough on the surface as to make them believable (4). It hits you hard at first and you begin to think, well, maybe…But, as with most propaganda, the reality, when you dig a bit deeper, is actually what can be referred to as “half-truths,” or insidious lies and distortions of reality mixed in with just enough truth that all but the most educated and informed become susceptible to it.

Red-pill men and the manosphere in general just love to talk trash about women (remember my post about men running their mouths (5)? Keep that in mind, I’ll come back to it). One of the most notable things they do is exaggerate the importance of youth when talking about a woman’s value and worth, as if we were all nothing but a bunch of commodities up on the market to be auctioned off to whoever has the “best deal” at the moment, instead of human beings (11).

And it’s true! Youth is very important for women. It’s true! Women do like dominant men! It’s true! Men are visual creatures and youth just looks better! If you are a young woman looking to start a family, you will be most fertile in your mid-20s, as well as you will be coming into greater psychological maturity. But that doesn’t mean you don’t still have plenty of time. Nor does that mean that men have plenty of time either. A female baby is born with all the eggs she’ll ever have, and the number decreases as she ages, leaving fewer eggs more prone to be less healthy and of poorer quality in her later reproductive years after age 40 (14). This is true.

Throughout history, because only women can bear children, it was always the fault of women if pregnancy didn’t occur, if a child was stillborn, if a woman was incapable of bearing a male heir, etc… However, with modern science increasing piles of evidence keep coming to light that do signify that men have just as much of a “biological clock” as what women do (8) (6). As well, most of the blame (such as not being able to bear a male heir) that used to fall solely on women, modern science has shown us that men- fathers- are really responsible. Science increasingly shows that both the health and age of the father at the time of conception matter greatly to the health of the offspring and the likelihood of a successful pregnancy that can be carried to term (13). As well, the father determines whether or not that male heir will in fact be born female (12).

It’s like this, if a man can get an erection, he will produce sperm. However, not only do erections start to become iffy for a man past a certain age (for a lot of men this happens sometime in their mid-40s or early 50s (7)), the quality of his sperm declines the older he gets. An 18 year old guy only has to think of a pretty girl for him to get an erection as hard as a rock and he’s ready to go for hours. His 40 or 50-something year old counterpart? Well, it’s probably going to take a bit more than the mere thought of a pretty girl. The erection doesn’t happen as easily, probably requires a bit of hands-on stimulation to get him going, isn’t quite as firm as it used to be when he does get one, and, the truth is, he’d probably just rather roll over and go to sleep than bother to go for a second round.

With the advent of Viagra and IVF, we see older men (who in the past might have had ED that kept them from performing) being able to keep going and even father children, and we see odd things like 60 year old women bearing children. Truth is, neither one of these scenarios is optimal. Around the age of 30 or so, a woman’s fertility starts slowly declining. Conversely, a man’s erections and sperm quality slowly begin to change as he ages out of his physical prime (his teenage years and his 20s), though for both sexes these changes may not be seen so much at first and come on quite slowly. But unlike the limited fertility and sexual power of a mere woman, the phallus is supposed to have god-like status, its potency everlasting; it’s fertility untouched even by the ravages of time. 

Solely biologically speaking, if we go back to caveman times or use evolution as an example, the younger man will be faster, stronger, able to father more healthy children. He’ll be better at providing and protecting than the older man, just as the younger woman will be healthier and able to produce offspring with a lesser risk to her own health or the health of the child. There’s no denying any of these things. If you are a young woman who puts family and finding a man aside to pursue a career, yes you’ll probably regret it. However, the day will also come for a man when he wakes up at middle-age and realizes that, not only is he not quite the looker he once was, and perhaps doesn’t have the job he once thought he’d have at his age, but the young near-virginal 20 year olds aren’t flocking to him the way the manosphere had promised that they would if only he was “successful!” He’s been lied to, just as the career woman has been.

Research bears out that only in 5 percent of married couples is the wife 10 years or younger than the husband (9). So, this indicates one of two things: A) men might like to look at younger women, perhaps even shack up with them temporarily and have sex with them, yet they don’t necessarily want to marry these younger women, or B) while the older men might be game to marry women young enough to be their daughters (1% of all marriages), the younger women just aren’t interested.

There’s a difference between the women a man wants to have sex with, and the women that he wants to marry. Yes, all heterosexual men like to ogle young, attractive 20 year olds and would pay or take risks for a night with them, but that doesn’t mean they want to commit to them! If youth and beauty guaranteed a woman success in marriage and in relationships with men, then wouldn’t it be so easy for women? Just hit the gym and have a guaranteed marriage that will last a lifetime! But it’s not so easy. In a lot of cases, youth and beauty are somewhat of curses for women, as it’s even harder to find a valuable man, as most of the men she meets or that take her out are just interested in sex with her, and she ends up carrying the heavy burden of having to discern their true intentions, a burden that men simply cannot understand, any more than young girls can understand the reality of a young teenage boy’s sex drive.

Over the years I’ve found that I haven’t really aged much physically. Rather, when I look back on the past, it is that innocence and simplicity of yesteryear that I truly feel nostalgic for. I have a better figure than I had years ago- more slender, more perfect hourglass shape and my skin still glows with healthy, youth and vitality. Living a traditional lifestyle being taken care of by a husband and remaining at home as allowed me to retain my femininity- which is what men truly desire from a woman, far beyond any other thing. Consider this: most men that have affairs aren’t doing so with women who are better looking than their wives. In fact, in most cases their wives are better-looking than the women they go and cheat on them with. So, what gives? Isn’t it all about youth, beauty, and fertility? No, more than likely it’s about validation (15).

In the vintage American Comedy Series Petticoat Junction, in the episode Kate’s Recipe for Hot Rhubarb, the widow Kate Bradley was talking to her daughter Bettie Joe about what exactly it was that Billie does to make all the guys go crazy over her. The report reads:

Herby bates says he’s crazy about Billie because she wrinkles up her nose so cute and she makes him feel so strong and masculine…

Ok. Next.

Wilbur Hodgkins says he flips for Billie because she walks so cute and because she makes him feel so strong and masculine…

Next…

Tad Perkins says he likes her because she dresses so cute…

…and because she makes him feel so strong and masculine…

Right.

I just wanted to see if things had changed since I was a girl. They haven’t.

Notice there’s nothing in there about her actual looks- just the ways she behaves (distinctly feminine) and the way she validates the guys’ masculinity. Validation. Of course, it’s supposed to be funny (it is), but it’s also true. Instinctively guys know that no woman is going to look twice at a guy she perceives as “less than” her- he has to be stronger and superior in the ways that matter to a man. And this is true. Every woman wants to look up to her man, no matter what stage they’re in in the relationship and know that he can defend and protect her and take care of her, that he is the one leading her rather than the other way around.

Now, there are two ways in which a guy can increase his own (perceived or real) value relative to the girls’. A) He can work hard to improve himself (a sometimes long and tedious process) or B) He can degrade the girls’ value, usually by putting her down and making her feel “less” than him. When you read articles in the manosphere it kind of makes you feel like shit (if you’re a female), doesn’t it? It makes you feel like you are worth less– which is the intended point. You ever sat and listened to a group of guys talk? Probably about 1.326% of what is coming out of their mouths is historically accurate. Mostly, they’re running their mouths- and there’s a reason for this. Most guys are lost about how to “get the girl” so, especially in their youth, they’ll do things to treat you like crap, call you a bitch or a whore, insult you in front of their buddies, act like they don’t give a shit, etc… (10) Especially teenage guys, they don’t have much they can offer a girl and they’re still quite immature, so the easiest thing to do is to degrade the girl.

Now, that doesn’t mean that you call him out on his game. Part of the game, from the girl’s end, is to make him feel like he’s superior. Most guys don’t get that women want a man’s masculinity but they don’t want him to be a jerk. Realize too that the manosphere and red-pill are full of men who are mostly low-value and have a long history of failing with women, and the owners of these sites have something to sell these men (books, seminars, etc…) so they want to keep the illusion up. When you read stuff such as “The Wall” and AWALT what you are reading is mostly lies and exaggerations with enough discernible truth in it to make it seem, at least on the surface, that it makes sense. Look closer, however, and everything falls apart. What you are seeing is men running their mouths, degrading the value and worth of women in an attempt to upgrade their own value. I’m a “good deal,” baby, a real “catch” so you better swoop me up quick during the limited period of your youth before you hit “the wall” and I take my pick of some of these other hot, young, things that are surrounding me, desperate for my d*** because of my “hard frame” and bad-boy attitude (16).

The reality, when you step away from the computer screen and get out in the real world, oftentimes looks a lot different than the false persona that we create of ourselves in the virtual world. Take an objective look around you, and you’ll see that most of what you read and hear (anywhere in the MSM not just the manosphere) just doesn’t measure up. The truth is, youth and beauty often make it harder for a woman to hold onto a man, and sometimes an older woman is in much better shape and more attractive than an obese, loud-mouth 20-year-old girl. Men aren’t going insane and complaining about modern women because of their looks or their obesity (though it certainly isn’t helping), but rather because of modern women’s attitudes and the way they are displacing men from their traditional roles. They’re angry because they need and want femininity to compliment and validate their masculinity yet can’t find it in their women.

In conclusion, yes, do it while you’re young- for more than one reason. Anywhere you look in life, whether successful people in business, Hollywood, wherever… these people that got where they are today usually hold their positions on account of the connections they made during their youth (sometimes starting as early as childhood). For women or men, if you wait half of your life to find somebody, your options will get bleaker with age. Most have already settled into their lives, carry around lots of “baggage”, have grown hardened by the years gone by, been through several heart-breaks and failed relationships to where they can’t bond like they once did, have already had their families or kids with another, etc…etc… It’s not simply a female issue.

But I can tell you, that it’s never your physical looks or material things that you miss most later in life, but the connections, the innocence, the simplicity, the loved ones you’ve lost- the memories. Do it while you’re young. Make those connections and bond to someone during your youth and work hard to stay together no matter what, because in the end, that’s all that really matters.

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Tell Him He’s Good

As anyone who has ever studied the field of psychology knows, there are no easy answers. You could study and work in the field your entire life and still be baffled by the things that people are capable of doing. A couple of months ago I was with my husband’s aunt and we were re-arranging things and talking. I said something about my husband “running his mouth” about something years ago and she just turned to me and said “Oh, honey, that’s all men!” We both then had to share a good laugh over that one. Of course, any woman over a certain age and with any experience dealing with men knows that to be true (that men run their mouths), and smart women pass this information on to their daughters, as well. But it did get me to thinking about things, and the current state of society, as well as man’s need to feel important and validated, not only by women, but by society.

It’s a need that I can say I have never truly felt as a woman, it’s true. As a woman, I desire inside to be validated, yes, but in an entirely different way. To be loved, cherished, looked upon with desire as an object of beauty and value. These thoughts overtake the fantasies of every woman, and always have.

Recently I have been doing a lot of research into criminal activity, and the subjects recently have delved into the frightening world of terrorism. I will say that there is only so much any sane and healthy-functioning person can take at once before becoming ill and needing to look away and re-focus on something else. It’s unbelievable not only what humans are capable of doing to one another, but also the lengths that some individuals will go just to inflict harm upon others- upon those that they perceive to be an enemy to fight against. These individuals will literally destroy themselves, risking life, limb, and serious harm and bodily injury (not to mention imprisonment and a host of other negative social outcomes) just to target and destroy their perceived enemy.

And, yes, any “normal” person (whatever the heck “normal” is anyway) would say that these people are “evil,” “sick,” and “deserving of whatever is coming to them.” All these things are true, of course. They do deserve to be stopped- and punished- for the protection of society and innocent individuals. There is most definitely something wrong in their minds and hearts. But what is more striking is the psychology behind all of this. People aren’t necessarily born “good” or “evil” any more than they are born as a “blank slate” where everything they are or will ever be is solely a product of their environment. Again, it is more complicated than that. Again, nobody knows as there are really no answers.

One thing that does stick out, however, is a deep sense of pain, rage and hurt. Many isolated individuals and individuals who feel marginalized- especially by the mainstream society- are easy targets for terrorist groups and organizations. Some people whose loved ones get drawn into criminal and terrorist organizations think that appealing to their sense of reason will bring them back. But then again these individuals have no idea the power of human emotions to override all reason and sense. There is no reasoning where the human heart is concerned.

International terrorist organizations such as ISIS have even been known to recruit individuals using red pill/blue pill terminology from The Matrix. They tell them they understand their hurt, their pain and can show them the truth and the way. They offer them a place of inclusion to these individuals who have mainly been excluded and rejected all their lives and suck them in. Before long, the individual is lost and willing to believe most of anything. They reject loved ones, family, willing to destroy their lives for a place of inclusion and the annihilation of their “enemy.” Sometimes the evil comes from a need for self-preservation and sometimes from loneliness and pain that overrides all else until hatred seeps in. Only the slow return of human love and feeling can ever bring them back- if they can ever be brought back at all. The real cost and consequences of their actions are unimportant to them. All that matters is their rage; their mission and belonging to the group. Even those who act alone without belonging to a specific group oftentimes are found to follow and believe in the ideologies of these global terrorist organizations.

And it was this that really got me thinking. We are all really just human underneath, right? Even the psychopath- the dreaded all-maligned creature of evil held up for veneration and in fascination by Hollywood for decades- is still human underneath, as studies have demonstrated that diagnosed psychopaths even have the ability to feel empathy and love- if their brains are triggered to. The only difference being that, in contrast to normal individuals, their brains generally operate in a I don’t give a **** mentality from day to day.

The point of all this, you ask? Well, it got me to thinking about the truth about society today and the relationships between men and women. It got me to thinking about the manosphere and the “red pill.” It’s the same common recruiting technique. Modern men feel marginalized, like there is no role for them anymore. Then you see a lot of these men- in particular young men (and most terrorists are still young men)- having no success with women or getting “used” by women or rejected (that’s what you get for being a “nice guy!-” You beta!”).

Enter The Red Pill. They’ll show you the “TRUE NATURE OF WOMEN” and “ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT” so just come and get red-pilled and open your eyes to the truth and the light! Women are your enemy and it’s OK to “game,” manipulate and abuse them no matter the devastation you cause to society or individual lives. All that matters is the mission and that you remember AWALT. They’ll give you a purpose and identity in a world and society “lacking a positive identity for men.”

Of course, a lot of men come out of it when they finally wake up. I’ve seen a lot of men saying that they joined because they were just looking to be loved. Yes, that is the human condition- to love and desire to receive love in return. I’m not saying that these groups are right- they are not. The Red Pill is trash and I hope one day it’s nothing but a bookmark on the pages of history, but in truth it will probably always exist to some extent in one way or another so long as men are looking for identity and validation in society (and from women).

The problem is that we as women are not giving them that validation. No, you’re not his mamma, but underneath he still wants to be seen and validated as a man. There’s a hidden and silent nurturing that a woman does. Red-pill men are in the wrong and women need to be protected from them and their abuses, but they are still coming from a place of hurt and pain. I know how hard it is as a woman sometimes. There’s a reason for the old adage of the “long-suffering wife.” It’s no myth. It’s a very real reality.

No, women are oftentimes ignored and not believed- it’s true. Men do try to knock women down oftentimes. But we have power and importance in that we civilize and greatly influence our men. We give them meaning in this life. We give our men a reason to work, to believe in themselves, to achieve. Did you know that some of these men will spend hundreds and thousands- give these PUAs and Red Pill cult leaders (who themselves are often one breath away from the very definition of clinical insanity) hundreds– just because they hope to land a woman (either for the night or for a lifetime)? If you’re hurting bad enough- or desperate enough- you’ll be easy prey for the lies and promises of riches, women, grandeur, validation, fame, etc. You’d believe and go along with anything.

So what makes some people immune? Only a deeper understanding and resiliency separates those who succumb to the hurt they feel inside and the hardships they experience in life- hardships everyone experiences- and those who overcome. Only with understanding and resiliency does reason triumph over emotion.

And you think women never had worth? Men have built and torn apart civilizations because of women. If you want them to be men, they will be. If you don’t, they won’t be. It’s as simple as that. That’s the power of a woman. The power of a woman isn’t conquering, fighting, competing. Our power is more subtle. Women have told modern men that they don’t need them. While on the surface most men seem to be going “Great! Sex! Fewer responsibilities! Let her go to work every day instead of me! You wanted equality!” on the inside these men are angry, suffering, feeling as though they have no purpose and their relationships are crumbling to pieces.

And yes, there are women terrorists (an increasing number, in fact, showing that women are becoming more hostile and aggressive and themselves lost and confused), and there are some effeminate and gay men to whom this doesn’t apply. But to normal, heterosexual males, it still does. And the ones who say it doesn’t? Well, look closer. They are generally either single, red-pilled, divorced (isn’t everybody?), drunks, lay-abouts, living with mommy and daddy until middle-age and generally failing in everyday life. Some can’t even hold a job (a problem which goes far beyond the realm of the political).

So, considering, perhaps it’s OK to understand why he runs his mouth. He wants to feel superior. He needs to feel important, stronger, achieving. What does my husband like about the things I write or the way I am? That he’s in charge, he says. Ah, but smart women know better, because we know they do it all for us.

He just wants to know that he’s good.

 

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My Covering

My Covering

I try to do my best every day to obey my husband and do what he tells me to do. Inside I feel like God has favored me by giving him to me as my covering; my provision and my protection. He shields me from the world, keeping me there under his wing and in his love. He is my choice. I chose him so long ago whenever I was young. Even in the times that I didn’t want to follow him, I still did, because I didn’t always have much of any other choice. I went with him, as he is my only source of provision in this life so I followed where he led. If he doesn’t listen, then he causes me pain and suffering. If he doesn’t understand, I hold that resentment inside. That’s why he must listen to what I say to him, to the things that my heart needs inside. He must listen to me with love and understanding as he was called to do, putting me above all others, as I do with him in return.

But there is love unimaginable. Whenever I’m lying there with him in the night, I know that I’m safe. It’s safe to let him inside of my body. I can take every bit of him in with love, as I know I’m safe to do so. He’s my covering and I don’t have to fear his abandonment come the morning. I can’t describe that feeling nor that joy whenever he’s inside of me. Sometimes I wonder how anything could ever feel or be so good. To be filled physically by one and only one man that I love and rely on, I know it’s safe to simply open up and relax. There’s something wonderous in the way my female form was made. I love the feel of it, to relish in it.

I don’t feel degraded when I’m lying there under him. In some sense I do feel inferior, but it is only in a good way; inferior in the sense that I know I’m subject to him, yet I have worth and value beyond compare, value that goes far beyond just the physical. All I have to do is ask and he’d give it to me. I know that I am cherished above all other women, beloved above all others. My position is important. There’s something so precious about it, to know how he invades me on the inside, and how I long for him to do so. The most private and intimate of things that I delight in in wonderment, that I would be horrified beyond words to just share with anyone. It’s beautiful beyond words the way my body was made. I have no reason to be scared or sad after the act is over, as it is an act of love, and not of temporary perversion, of the man that I love, of the only man who has ever lain with me, the same man who I have relied on for years.

The way I love him when I’m scared or in danger, the way I come to him. Many times has he picked me up in his arms and carried me; many times have I rested my head against his chest and let him protect and hold me. So easy is it for him to overpower me, but I know he would never hurt me. I delight in the feeling and strength of his arms. The few nights that I have ever been without him were nights of loneliness, pain and fear. If I left him temporarily, it’s like his covering was removed from me, and I was extremely frightened. I’ve always depended on him for my livelihood, knowing no other life but a truly patriarchal one. Yet I know I’ve never been oppressed. I have been favored and loved. I pursue my dreams and passions, yet I do so there under his covering. And I do know the power he has over me in that I have no means to provide for myself. And it’s OK. If I’m depending on him then I need him. If he is providing for me, then I know I am secure. When there is no mixing of the roles, then there is no confusion or contempt. I ask him for the things I need. I feel happy and free. Free to be soft, feminine, devote myself to my home and family and focus on being a woman. His covering allows me to be a feminine woman who doesn’t have to toughen up to focus on advancing in the work world. I don’t have to devote my time to hardening myself and focusing on moving up the career ladder.

Coverture has protected me from being out in the world to be raped, abused, harmed or harassed by other men, or by others in general. Sometimes when I have gone through hard times I’ve stopped and wondered, asked, that if there was really a God out there, then what am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to be? For the last few months I’ve felt this voice inside of me, perhaps an intuition trying to guide me, that speaks to me. But that voice has never told me to be independent, to go out and conquer the world or anything of the sort. The only thing that I hear inside is this voice telling me just to be a woman. And there is something precious inside. My very feminine essence I feel is so precious. And it’s precious when I’m with him, most precious of all the way I feel when he’s inside of me, most precious when he kisses me. I’m odd for the times we live in today, but I am no different than the women who came before me. Above all, I was made to be a woman. I was made to be loved and to be delighted in, that feminine essence inside of me so powerful and unique.

 

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